Polls: Dating

(Asking on behalf of myself.) Recently been diagnosed with melanoma and wondering whether this diagnosis or melanoma surgery scars would impact how the opposite sex feels towards me. Will be a good way of distinguishing the superficial from the genuinely good men though! Also scars are the least of my worried, a tiny part of the overall badness of melanoma. Please be honest with your response. Thank you.

a lot of women who are white were pretty upset by the words of Dr. Umar.

"Black men get the white women that white men genuinely do not want. They don't get the top of the line white women they get left overs. They don't get the white women that come from the richest families"- stated by Dr. Umar see tiktok vid below

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRqCxtXy/

Based on my observations I found that online dating through apps or websites tend to be less successful long term than traditional means of dating like meeting through mutual friends, meeting through work/school.

Why is this?

I once heard that being a hopeless romantic was impossible, bc romantics are actually full of hope. 🤯😌
i need a boost 🙈
i’m girly, funny, educated, kind of hood, eat healthy but am a sucker of hot cheetos, drinks lots of water, drinks maltas too. PR & DR made me. i always smell good. realistically positive. 5’5, 128. model physique. not a polygamist anymore. straight. prefer girls as friends. not a feminist at all. submissive. assistant-type, babygirl vibes all day. masculinity will always be respected.
please oh please, don’t be toxic 🥹💗 #stillhealing

(Assuming she is physically attractive to you).

Men complain about getting bored with women (including their partners), get annoyed by their emotional needs and anxieties, get repulsed and frustrated when facing a discussion that is not faced with with logic; complain about women wanting gender equality, thinking they wouldn't do their part or that they wouldn't offer enough on the table in exchange; complain about women being difficult to talk with and "expensive".

Now, imagine a woman who counters the complaints: she shares the same interests as yours with the same depth, has a technical and goal-oriented mindset, is confident and insightful about any topic you open, takes a lot of initiative to drive the day, is not anxious, doesn't feel gender inequality effects, doesn't need a boyfriend (but accepts one), is very logical and assertive during conflicts, coherent, chill and very easy to start any conversation with, men have an unusually very good esteem of her, she manager herself alone by a lot, reasons like a man would, knows what she wants, is generous, trustworthy.

All this can easily come with a cost that is typical of any "too" independent individual: she is sometimes cold and drastic, likes sex but doesn't easily commit to a relationship, doesn't perceive your authority, puts in you in circumstances that imply gender equality, is often too busy for your emotional needs and fully absorbed in her interests, doesn't reply fast to your texts, can't fall for any mind game or power struggles and reads your intentions in advance, doesn't forgive you by just by "missing" you, fights about strongly grounded opinions, is not afraid to offend you with a "no", has male friends she shares interests with, she needs alone-time and if you don't follow her initiatives she leaves you behind.

Is that a cost you would pay?