Polls: Dating

I really like him , but after knowing that, i feel sick. should I give another guy a chance rather than date such guy who keep trying every girl he met?

Things being relative, do you wonder how long his dangly bits are?

I was chatting with my roommate and she was telling me about these sites or apps that she's gone on to chat with guys such as meetup tagged and plenty of fish. At first I wasn't sure what she was looking for so I listened and I laughed at some of the messages she got and I shut my eyes @ some of the pictures she received oh boy! 😳🙈 Which to those she thankfully chewed them out! 😠

and finally I asked her "why are people on these apps? what are you hoping to gain?" in actuality I wanted to ask are you looking for a hookup or a date? not that I thought my friend was looking for a hookup but more because the responses she was getting from the guys. They seemed more interested in looking for a hookup... Anyhow her response was "I don't know just looking to talk... Get comfortable enough to meet with someone... Hopefully nice"...

I responded "yeah but is it me or do most of them just want hookups?"

To which she shrugged and said "well how else do we do this how else do we meet up with people?"

Sadly I can't say. Dating or getting to know someone now a days seems to have become so complicated.

So what are these site for? What other apps or sites are there? And what are they for?

I get eHarmony and match. com that's obvious they're looking for marriages but is it okay to look on eHarmony and you're not looking for marriages or romantic or a hookup?

• 1 Where do you look if you just want casual dating without a hookup?
• 2 Where do you look if you don't want the dating and you might just want a friend?
• 3 And for the hell of it since we are on the subject where do you look if you do want just to hook up?

Recently a guy asked me out, of course I want to look my best but I am not sure whether I should do a full makeup (foundation included) or stay true to myself, to what I usually do (eyeliner, mascara, lipstick at most).

Guys, what would you prefer?

Girls, what would you go with if you were in my shoes?

I definitely plan to do my hair and wear something cuter (if the weather allows it) for the date.

1 🤔 while you were single, were you still having sex?

2 OK sooo I do have friends with which there is a mutual attraction but where neither of us see a relationship working out and sometimes we “spend time together.”

1 So would you let me know if you were still “spending time together” if I decided I was ready to date (in future)

2 wouldn’t be “spending time together”

with them if You told me you wanted to date me.🙂

🤨 Well, what if I (in future) decided to date but I am not “ready to spend time together” ?

(SEX y’all we mean sex. In case anyone didn’t catch it. “Spending time together” was the euphemism P 1 originally used for banging his friends, & I was repeating for consistency)

2 If I have a reason to wait, I can wait. But we don’t really have to worry about that at this point.

1 🤨🧐😐 Wait so then why did you go through all that stuff in the first place about how you hope you can marry while your grandparents are still here. You seem fairly casual so I don’t see why you felt the need to mention it. I wouldn’t have even been concerned about any of this 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 Well honestly they are relatively young so they have time. And while I really mean it I also do not believe in forcing things… So I am hopeful but careful.

1 Ok

2 Ok

2 … So… what now 😐

1 I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️ 👀

(Quiet for a long time)

2 Are you ready to go home? I will walk you. You are welcome to stay but it’s a bit late. I know you get up early af)

(So he walks me 🏡 I was quiet during)

2 OK so no kiss but Can I hug you😁?

1 hmm OK. maybe. ok NO. OK. 🤔

2 Are you sure? 👀

1 I think so? I don't know. nvm. Well, Uhh — maybe next time. Sorry not feeling it atm. 🤦🏻‍♀️

2 It’s OK. 😌

(He buttoned my top coat buttons which was a bit weird 👀 but I guess it’s something to do I don't know)

2 You will be at your tree 🌲 tomorrow?

1 Yeah… 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 See you on my way to work. You can tell me If you want to hang out / when you want to, yeah?

So we said good night. 🌚

I am P1 he is P2

(Was a bit funny bc he was like shaking his head slowly “no” while I was saying good solution”, So I laughed)

2 Well, I made you laugh 3 times thats something 😃😃😃

(That confused me not bc I didn’t Understand it was a joke but I didn’t get the point…So I was quiet)

2 Sooo ok how about this we just continue to spend time together and see how it goes.

1 yeahhhh 😬 so I’m never comfortable with “let’s wait & see”that even it’s what _I’m_doing bc it usually means something different to other people than it does to me…. For example, I AM “seeing how things go” but I think It’s different for me bc I do not have a cut off point. I do not have a ‘if something doesn’t happen by such and such a time, I’m out’ Such as sex marriage or fancy dinners or whatever lol. I’m literally just “seeing what is there”… Sooooo if someone actually IS looking for something specific and they are on a timer ⏰ , I’d prefer they just say that rather than basically “let’s see if it happens on time “ 🤪😎

2 Alright 🤔 Soooo In all that time we hung out, what two years now? I didn’t ask you out. Right?

(was confused & I thought he meant like “I do not care much about dating you at all”)

2 😛 I don’t mean it like that. What I mean is, I’m not in a rush to “date” I didn’t ask you out and I wasn’t looking to date, I agreed bc what do you call it “I feel some kind of way about you”… I was cool on my own. I have dated a fair amount and I’m busy now it isn’t bothering me to be single 🤷🏽‍♂️ I’m happy to get to know you but we don’t need to “date” if that’s not what YOU want. 😇

(So honestly at that point I wasn’t sure then what he wanted)

1 Sooo do you mean you want to stay friends? 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 Well, I def want to stay friends!😃 why wouldn’t I…. and maybe you’ll change your mind eventually and we can date if you decide. Meanwhile we can just be like this. If you want. 🙂🙂

1. 🧐 I have question but you don’t have to answer.

2. Go for it. 👍🏼

1 No. I just find “liking” anyone in any kind of a way other than friendship to be

Extremely stressful. I’m not good at it. it’s probably a terrible idea for us to do anything bc we did actually get along before. ALSO I’m not being coy. 🤨 I know often if someone says something negative it’s taken as coy and I’m being serious I honestly dk if this is a good idea. I’m also serious when I say I move SLOW and I don’t mean sex I just mean anything as far as getting to know each other….

☝🏼 …But that does bring me to my other concern before you interrupted me…

All I know about sex is I’m not ready for it and as far as WHEN I will be or if I will EVER be I have NO idea…

…So if that’s the ride you’re looking for you should exchange your ticket 🎫 and hop on another train 🚂—I mean that with all due respect.

I know sex is a big deal to most people and I don’t judge I just really dk if it’s gonna matter to me.

(So he def looked more surprised here -& maybe concerned not sure-than he did when I said “it takes me a long time to talk” & he kind of paused…then asked)

2 Sooo is that like you HATE it orrrr you just never found out? 👀

1 🤔 Fair question I suppose but it doesn’t really impact the fact I’m not in any rush. Anyhow the latter.

(He looked a bit more relaxed which honestly bothered me but on the other hand, I am the one who brought it up so I can’t fault him for reacting and we are not in a Disney cartoon so I can’t expect him to not care about sex)

(Getting over my discomfort bc it was all fair his reaction, but I guess I did not know what to say)

1 I do know I do not want to date someone who’s is having sex with other people 🤢

(He looked kind of feeling accused)

1. Oh lol no ! I don’t necessarily think that’s what you’re saying. I’m only raising it bc I USED to think it was a GOOD solution a perfect one. Like I can date whomever and never have to worry about sex! And now I don’t think it’s such a good idea.👀

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