Polls: Guy's Behavior

My boyfriend and I have been long-distance dating for closer to 4 years, and it's been a rollercoaster for many reasons. But, recently, we both finally had an opportunity to spend a night together at a hotel and enjoy ourselves. As soon as we walked in since I had not seen him for some time, he wanted sex. I wanted to do it as well because, mentally, I thought it would be fun for us both. However, while we were doing it, he kept telling me not to take my shirt off and other stuff that seemed distant. He finished and was quiet, giving a stand-offish vibe afterwards. I kept asking him what the issue was, and he insisted it was nothing. Finally, once I got ready for the event he wanted to go to, he stated that he was worried about my health since I had gotten "bigger."

My weight has fluctuated a lot throughout the years in early adulthood, especially with working and college. When we met, I was on the smaller side, but it was an unhealthy time for me, hardly eating. I got on the hormonal IUD for him, and that caused me to gain a lot of weight.

I started crying and asked if he was ashamed of me, if he was still wanting me in that way, the works basically because of my body. He apologized a while later about it, and admitted saying that I deserve better which was also weird. I'm not sure how to really feel or go about this since he is health-crazy and wants to make sure I live a long life with him. However, his behavior did not match up to what he was saying. I mentioned it to a few friends to which they said that he might have seen better and now has a desire for that, or he's using health as a scapegoat to cover up his lack of wanting me now. What do you think? I'm afraid he doesn't find me attractive anymore but the weight is mainly because of him wanting this birth control in me. Do you think he is just using me for sex/companionship? Does he actually love me?

So the latest discussion has been how Penn Badgley has downgraded to his now wife Domino kirke.

Penn Bradley went from Blake lively (the blonde pictured) to Zoe Kravitz (pictured) to now domino kirke (wife).

He’s a married Asian man (not my type and I only like black men) he offered me to go to the park with him and his toddler and my toddler while his wife is at work and teen is at home. Just seems weird cause I’m black and a single mom (nothing wrong with either) but we have two different lifestyles.

We both have toddlers. He wanted me to go with him and his toddler to the park with my toddler while his wife is at work and his teen was at home. I think he wanted to pursue me, he has a lot of time on his hands and unemployed. I never went cause I think he wanted to mess with me.

So I was just in one of my class sitting down doing my work when my crushes friend told me that my crush liked me then he asked me if I liked him which I responded with no ( Better to be safe then sorry ) which now I regret saying also during this my crush wouldn't even look at me does that mean anything?

We clicked right away we started texting and then he asked me for my snapchat. Then it was good morning good night snaps here and there... then it started to be like oh morning... and left on read... and then hours later responds... or then doesn't ever respond... so I am confused because he said he's being deployed... next month but said perhaps we should hang out again... after I asked... I don't think he's into me... and he should of said that when we did the IRL meet up... but he said all the right things... and then it suddenly clicked that we where unmatched on the dating app. My brain was like what's going on... I never cared to ask him... I never even asked what his intentions are... I don't know what to think of the whole situation... I see he's been with someone else I don't know if its a friend or a girlfriend...

The ones who belittle independent and strong women instead of admiring their strength and determination.

Or would you prefer to have a chill girlfriend who gets high with you occasionally?