Polls: Relationships

Partnerships, relationships, and friendships all derive on making things work and cooperation with eachother to finding solutions together which make a bond stronger. So if both people are always willing to cooperate with eachother and willing to help make things work no matter what happens, then breakups just shouldn't happen.
However it seems like as soon as one side refuses to cooperate and communicate, they just pull the plug on the relationship and it all just ends despite them being with someone who is always willing to listen communicate and cooperate.
But yeah basically what I'm saying is i think breakups never really Absolutely have to happen if the partner is honestly good. What does need to happen is better cooperation understanding and communication from both.
It may be just because I'm just a guy that never really sees the need to break apart good things that honestly aren't broken. Until something substantially bad happends. Like if your partner just treated you like shit in every way then yeah i could see people not being willing to try anymore for a person like that then.

But what do you think? Can't most breakups be avoided?

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Who do you think more often or is more likely to admit when they're wrong, particularly with the opposite sex? Men or women.

I read this in a fantasy novel called: The Etherial Squadron by Shami Stovall...

"Women want men who are gentle with them, but rough with everyone else. You have to be tough on the outside, but soft enough for them to feel like they've learned the real you."

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"Second, you need to make eye contact as much as you can. Across the room. In a conversation. While you eat. Whenever. you.
Can. Women love it when you stare deeply into their eyes. Lastly, you need to pick a physical feature about them and compliment it as the most beautiful you have ever seen. Her eyes. Her hair. Her complexion. No other girl compares. Got it?"

I went through this about 10 years ago. My then 25 year old girlfriend made more than me when I was 32. But at the time I was pursuing a dream (I was a professional athlete) and I my time was consumed with training. I was no dead beat but I just had a different focus at the time.

I was doing freelance work just to pay the bills and I was struggling. She even offered me money at one time (which extremely kind of her) but it I turned it down out of pride and went further in debt.

Anyway the insecurity was on my side when it can to this (also contributed to our break up). She didn’t care but I did. It had a lot to with being raised to “be a man” when it came to being a breadwinner.

Nowadays I make a lot more money given I’m retired from my sport and have full focus on my career. But I am also a lot more “boring” now since I’m no longer the free wheeling adventurer I once was.

But money is a touchy issue. Form a evolutionary perspective I really do believe most women still subconsciously expect a man to provide for them even it’s unnecessary or impractical. They might get into short term flings with guys who offer other benefits (looks, excitement, adventurer, personality, etc) but when it comes to long term commitments they have a much higher bar on this

I also believe when a woman makes more money then her boyfriend/husband she’s more prone to cheating. Especially if she is comparable to him when it comes to looks (maybe she will stay loyal if she’s physically unattractive compared to him)

In fact I believe it’s unfairly more socially “acceptable” for a woman to do this given the guy is considered a “chump” if he is financial dependent on her. More more acceptable then vice versa.

I have a divorced uncle who worked a low paying his entire life and was supported by his (comparably) rich wife. She was no multi millionaire but she earned a lot more than him.

She ended up cheating on him the entire marriage. He tolerated it because they had kids and he needed support.

Who do you think loses interest in a partner more? Who do you think loses feelings for someone more? Men or women?

Did you pick the person that liked you or did you pick someone you liked but doesn’t like you back? Are you happy in your relationship? Why or why not

Please explain your choice.

For this question, male is defined as someone with a Y chromosome, and female is defined as someone without the Y chromosome.

I assume that if you have a pink account or blue account, you are a female or male, as I have defined.

I got this idea for a question by watching Netflix. Personally if I'd be married to someone who turns into a zombie, who needs to drink blood to live and demands me to help her, but stays otherwise about the same, I'd expect myself to be willing to donate blood to her. As long as it doesn't danger my health. If the relationship wouldn't be as serious, I'd be more likely to break up.