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I'll get straight to it. I'm a 28 years old man living in India. By looks i'm OK and having a respected profession, 1-2 girls have told me that i'm marriage material. and when i tell them i'm a virgin they get kind of shocked. Being honest, i'm searching for a lady who is a virgin. i was dating one 2 years back and i tried reasoning with myself to accept her even if she was not but couldn't. I was busy for the last 1.5years in my job, and a similar thing happened 5 months back with one more girl (Both were thinking of relation with me). but now i got the time to think about it, in depth, and realized i can't accept someone who is even a half virgin because I myself am waiting for her and if it doesn't get reciprocated i'm not going to feel respected & honored in that relation. I also know from all my friends (Male & Female) YOU ALLWAYS REMEMBER THE FIRST ONE, so that is a half committed relation, I'm absolutely not like that.

But now i'm looking for a lady, my hopes are the ever lowest in life. Her past is one of the major Red Flags for relationship, I also have few other. It tells me a lot about her Values & Principles. So i just want to know how many ladies out there, globally, are some what similar to me in this aspect.

Please don't judge me as there are lots of other thing about me that you don't know. and I'm not one of those illogical conservatives who think that a woman shouldn't be perusing a passion or a job or such. I dont support the typical misogynistic mindset & i also dont support feminist. i'm some where in the middle.

And please give me your opinion or questions or whatever you want to on this topic or even related to it. I'll take this opportunity to understand the thought process and patterns of general female population.

It will be very much appreciated if you can give me your Age, Country & Why you chose what you chose, along with the poll.

Gender roles are those expectations held by members of a given regarding how their genders should act, speak, dress, and so on. Examples include:

1. Men are expected to ask a woman out while women are expected to wait to be asked out.

2. Men are expected to plan the date, including the venue and time while women are not expected to. Women’s input to date planning is reduced to accepting and advising on the date plan.

3. Men are expected to take control during sex while women are expected to lose control to the man.

4. If you’re short or skinny and happen to be a man, your male appeal to a woman reduces.

5. If you’re flat-chested or have a flat bum and happen to be a woman, your female appeal to a man reduces.

6. The man is expected to keep the relationship exciting by taking her out while the woman is not expected to take a man out.

7. If you are a straight guy and groom yourself to near polished perfection, which may include wearing female cologne or deodorant, and/or makeup, you are a lesser man, or even mistaken for a gay man.

8. If you’re a straight girl and hardly shave your legs, do manicure, pedicure, and nails polishing, you’re a lesser woman.

10. If a woman has slept with more than 20 guys she is less than a girlfriend or marriage material, but if a man did it he is not looked down as much as the woman.

11. If you’re broke and happen to be a man, your social standing and appeal to the woman is reduced while if you’re a woman and broke, the effect on your social standing and appeal to the man is not reduced by the same measure.

12. Women are not expected to be sexually forthcoming while men are expected to be.

13. Women are not expected to foot the bill on a date while men are expected to foot the bill.

Check out the link below and read this controversial article written by a woman in her 30s. She claims that she dumped good boyfriends that are "marriage" material because she thought that she could do better! She even dumped good boyfriends who proposed marriage... because she thought something better was out there and she could achieve it because of her great beauty.

She states that now she is older and her friends have gotten married and now later in life the only guys available are "fuck buddies".

Her hookup culture serial dating attitude has left her older, with less sexual market place value.. and marriageless. She's an attractive lady too.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/11/all-the-single-ladies/308654/