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I've had a hard time finding someone to date or marry. I dated one girl for a long time and almost married her and she decided we couldn't be together over her religion and went and married another guy.
It took a long time for my heart to heal and I tried dating again. Only to be a rebound the next girl was only stringing me along until she found what she wanted.
Last girl I talked to was a connection so much like the first girl, I thought it was a game changer. But she told me she's not looking for a relationship and she's not all that attracted to me.

Losing the religious girl shattered me and I was in a state of depression for a few years. I got hurt at work, I gained 60 pounds and struggled with work.

I'm trying to turn it around but I don't think I can. I'm tired of getting hurt and wasting my time on people who don't feel the same about me. I just don't feel good enough anymore.

My confidence and respect are just absolutely shot and I don't know what else to do. I've tried putting myself out there but it keeps biting me.

I don't know what else to do except stop looking and keep to myself and just do nothing.

I’d like to start getting into combat sports. I personally love striking, I feel that speed and explosivity are my strong points. But Jiu Jitsu has many beneficial teachings.

What do you guys think?

I want to start getting deeper into athleticism, to train and feel like more of an athlete. The fire, aggression and confidence I can gain from it will for sure also be a benefit.

You are a beautiful girl and you know this, not because you're conceited, but because you are reminded by others often, perhaps even approached by a lot of guys. If this happens to you a lot than answer the following.

Do you get sick of guys asking you out in public because so many scumbags, perverts , creeps, or aggressive men have made it to where you already built to say no, hurting every guys chances of getting your number. In other words, are chances low for a guy to succeed on some level because too many bad experiences made the idea of approaching girls, not ideal anymore and results in not even wanting to be asked out, in general? Or is it still okay to try? Would you rather be asked I'm person in public, or in your social media inbox? Neither?

If you do not mind being approached, obviously in an appropriate way what is the best way to do it?

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I created this approach to test on the field:

"the low risk low reward"

Which is basically the following steps 1. Approaching someone out of their league 2. confessing attraction 3. Immediately admitting he knows his chances are slim to none 4. Explaining his goal: which is not exactly to acquire your phone number or Ig but to learn and cushion the rejection, the attempt was experimental, to gain experience, tips for future attempts with other women.
The guy who approaches believes if he could survive, gain experience, and be able say friends he legitimately asked the hottest girl out, the attempt would be a success just from the Knowledge and experience alone
5. Wait for response (saying all that shit before she can say no.) this approach was formally called " the Shoot yourself in the foot "

before answering, would this nullify the confidence level that women are drawn to? or would you respect his attempt in trying to approach women in kind fashion and wish him luck, is it weird to bein friend, non romantic

How do I ask a girl out who is really attractive and be able to continue?