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I'm gathering more opinions on this topic for someone to help them! My words aren't doing the trick.. I need them to visually see other people's opinions! I want your total honesty on what you think about this situation.. Please!

The girl's opinion plus some background
info (this was sent to another friend first then screenshotted and sent to me- she knows I'm using this also!)
https://imgur.com/a/VUvZO

The guy's counteragument (screenshotted from the girl then sent directly to me.. The blue is the guy talking and the purple is the girl's response to what he said) https://imgur.com/a/NT9x9

Basically, the girl met the guy about a year ago and at the time he was dating this other chick.. Things went super bad and they broke up and the guy was super depressed every day and nearly killed himself more than once but the girl had developed a crush on him and decided to stick by him and help him out. Then they started dating and were all happy until the girl started to feel a bit used by the guy. The girl has actually gained about 6 pounds and is overeating from stress.
The main issue, from what I can tell, is that the guy is taking advantage of this girl's kindness and making her feel powerless.. Belittled. They've argued and each time she somehow always ends up as the guilty one due to him manipulating her and making her feel guilty and hypocritical etc.

An important note is that all of this is online!

Sorry for all the reading 😅 But please take the time! This is a pretty serious issue unfortunately :/

More info on emotional abuse here!
https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/emotional-abuse-definitions-signs-symptoms-examples/

A good example picture for a more visual display!

I am a virgin and never dated, though i'm 20. long story doesn't really matter now. Anyhow i became acquainted with Toby 23 months ago. He asked me out but at the time i thought that meant sex i didn't realize you could just date and get to know each other, so i said no. We have spent a lot of time together bc of mutual friends. We have ended up around each other a lot and shared some personal moments before things got weird. After it became awkward i figured its bc he has feelings for me, OR bc he realizes i have feelings for him and is uncomfortable. I have not been able to talk about my interest bc my feelings are stronger than i want, and i was hoping they'd die down a bit then id ask him out casually. Im pretty much in love, i don' treally care about the precise definition, i just know id feel his absence profoundly and i can't befriends bc i am self conscious about how i feel. I guess if i thought he was ok with my feelings i could befriends but i might not like it.

Anyhow bc of how i feel i reject other guys but i have not done a thing about Toby. and i realize im stuck. I did not mean to halt anything but thats happened. I don't think id feel comfortable dating knowing how i feel knowing it might bother him, bc id feel pressured to hide or id be at the mercy of how he 'might' feel. i want to be in an honest situation esp since its my first experience. So, i will either just date other people, OR tell him how i feel and see if he wants to date. I don't really care about rejection bc i think it'd be better than this. I just know once i tell him ill most likely feel silly but not bc of rejection , but bc love is awkward. I think id feel worse dating others without him even knowing, bc if he did want me hed just feel like i dont care.