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My situation is this. I was abused by my father who had a drinking problem when I was younger. Around age 12 or 13 was the worst time when he physically abused me by hitting me. My parents later divorced and I chose to stay with my mom, I did not want much to do with my father. I did not feel safe with him and the violence caused some emotional trauma that I needed to get away from. Over the years he hasn't helped me with anything and didn't even call to see if I needed help. Now I'm older and started talking to him again about a year ago when he wished me a happy birthday really I was just hoping he would offer to help me pay off my student loan debt or something as a way to make up for the past. But he never asks if I need help and never offers. He merely texts me to ask how I'm doing, and I am tempted to tell him I don't need a buddy to ask me how I'm doing. I needed a father and now I don't need one anymore. A father's role is to protect and provide which he didn't do for me. My spiritual father says he forfeited his role when he failed to do these things. I would like to confront him about the past again, last time I did about eight years ago he denied everything. I would say that it's hard for me to forge a relationship with no Foundation seeing as he never asked for forgiveness or confessed anything. Thank you for your feedback and feel free to comment.

Hi, I'm looking for some advice please 😊 I have recently broken up with my now ex boyfriend, due to a gambling problem, drinking issue, questioning my worth, financial issues and his negative attitudes and behaviours. He wanted me back and is saying he will make changes, I know he has quit gambling, not drinking as much and he's saying all the things I want to hear and have in my future and would do anything to have me back and saying it's me or no one.
I've been asking for the last 5 weeks since we broke up to give me space so I can decide if I miss him, he can implement these changes he is speaking of and I can have some alone time to decide if I do really miss him and want to try again. Thoughout these 5 weeks he has smoothered me, begging to take him back and telling me there is no one else, he will never date again, he wants to marry me, have a family and will support me and be a better person. he's even offered relationship counselling and said he will do anything to make it work.
Two days ago I said no let's call it a day I'm done I'm not willing to give it another go, his pushing for an answer was exhausting and it's was pushed me to say no I'm done. He has then done everything I asked yesterday stopped the messaging and then sent a quick one this morning to say he'd removed me from social media not to be petty or vindictive but for his own mental health. Since he's done that, I regret it he's never left my head, I can't stop crying and I feel sick. What should I do?

I was talking to my colleague & his girlfriend yesterday. They're moving to this area - which consists of 5 small towns about 20 minutes apart - and she said she wanted to live in X town because of the "wine culture".

I was amused by this ignorant reason. Not just because the town offers most than booze but because the whole region's known for it's wine culture. Then I got to thinking... she *must* have a problem with drinking if that's her motivation.