Girls get rejected for not looking good enough. Guys get rejected for not having enough confidence, self esteem & so on.
Both get just as easily dumped as well.
The world of love can hurt people emotionally more than racism. I mean the world of racism is just two sides that love to hate each other. Dating world is when anyone one feels just unconditional love to soneone who left them behind and woshed they never even met.
I dont know how to prepare anyone for this world of redhearts and black hearts or whatever the real world is.
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Depends, if the person is a psych case, or a person on your level.
Only ever dated one person with these issues. (don't date crazy, or "sympathy date" as a rule) and it didn't last, as she needed a therapist, not a partner.
If you're not able to get more good out them than bad, or if you're just not seeing much you can improve for them, then leave. No point both of you getting into the hole.
It’s 100% an excuse in my opinion. You can work on self esteem in the relationship, as long as the partner is there to support them and reassure them!
Self esteem definitely can be a factor to why someone breaks up, kind of in a guilt way… for example; “Im sorry im such a bad girlfriend/boyfriend, Im not as attractive as other people, I want you to find someone better…” And that can be genuine to them.. but a lot of the time it’s just an excuse.
I’ve pushed lots of guys away because of my looks. 🙈
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Depends on the whole situation.
I know there are a lot of self-absorbed immatur female's that has double standards with this. They either didn't love or have some personality disorder attitude going on. both are same with love.
The funny thing is. most of the times if someone brakes up with someone because of that they didn't really love that person. only used them with a lie most of the times.
( a lot of female's have a tendency to build up justifications to justify their actions no matter what to feel good )It really depends how long the relationship has been going on, people like to find reasons to leave relationships when things get hard. Would you leave your spouse if he/she got depression or low self-esteem from something that happened at work?
If its a short relationship that you just got into, maybe... but if its been a long time, you should support that person and try to help them out.I think that anything, anyone or situation that reduces yourself esteem should be trying to figure out a way to regain instinct esteem instinctively so that it doesn't have to be something worked on but something learned earned stuck in a way of life unless someone has a low testosterone problem LOL there's no way a woman should be bored and no esteem to get up and go to the carnivore to the circus or to a painting or a museum
Yeah , it's legitimate like probably most reasons for leaving a relationship. Basically it's just a reason that affects you to the point you no longer wish to be with the partner. Otherwise if a reason was irrational to the point of idiocy (like break ups over a song or something as stupid as such (seen it happen before)) then it would be somewhat concerning, but in general most reasons to leave a relationship are fine in my opinion.
To me, it's not an excuse. It's a personal choice and what your standards are. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that. I've gone through that before and it wasn't fun. The blaming game is a big no.
Low self esteem causes people to make bad decisions, either for attention or just in general. Usually though there are other factors involved in break ups other than a self esteem problem.
It's a good excuse to dump someone. Insecure people need constant reassurance, have unresolved issues, and need therapy. They should be healed before entering a relationship. No one got time to be walking on egg shells for insecure people
You shouldn't need to break up. Clearly that person likes multiple things about you, even if you don't (or don't know what). Maybe have them list what they like about you and why if you're feeling down to understand why that person chose to date you.
My self esteem was good until I got married..
Women will tear you down to your foundation then complain about the mess..Absolutely not. If she has low self-esteem, I would be a real dick to abandon her in that time! If you love someone, you're there for them, no matter what.
It's an excuse. If you really love the person, you would stick with them through thick and thin.
Low self esteem is never a good excuse to breakup with someone. Hiding like a turtle in its shell is not living at all.
They are not in love. If they were, they would be willing to put forth the effort to help that person grow.
People need to be compatible, there's nothing wrong with breaking up with someone who has a personality type you're not compatible with.
I think they don't feel they are worthy to be loved. Don't hold on to them too much they will cheat.
Would be best to break up and heal/upgrade yourself to a point where you are happy with yourself first.
Any reason is good reason for breakup. Some may think it's small 😉. And for some it's a big deal.
If its a guy sure. I like strong masculine men.
It's a reason they make your life miserable
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