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Been in the dating scene for the past 7-8 years, like every guy out there at first i thought that love, compassion and attention will get you the girl, since i saw some guys making it work... turns out these guys either seriously lucked out out or had other attractive qualities "money" .

In reality the dating scene was a little more complicated than showing love and attention to get women, i once ignored a girl whom i had feelings for and for some reason she decided to not pursue anything with me any further, and i was surprised when she came to me a while later asking why do i avoid her and showing far more interest in me than before... my first ex i almost showed no interest in and never considered dating or flirting with her but after a few text messages (she messaged me) we ended up going on a date and dating for a while, my now ex acted weird and distant at first, so i ignored her, she started pursuing me harder and finally i told her i have no interest in girl who acts like she does (she is hot by the way ) ... the result? dated for 3 months, she probably even left her boyfriend to date me.

between these two gfs i met plenty of women be it at college or out of college, and what i noticed was that showing any kind of attention in women almost always led to them losing interest in me, when i acted distant and made no effort i had compliments and interest from all kinds of girls and they werent shy about showing it, showing little to no interest in women has helped me a lot and i still can't figure out why is it like that?

I’ve been listening to a lot of podcasts about the topic of choosing who to date, marry & have kids with. And it’s fascinating cause supposedly it’s more to what the world perceives as the “perfect man” or “perfect woman” some of it has to do with your genetics. For example, in most cases females choose to be with men that share qualities that their father’s have. And they were saying that this is because of the fact that they share the genetic makeup of their mothers as well so what their mother found attractive in their father they seek those same things in men...

Aside from that though, they didn’t say that was 100% legitimate but studies have suggested it.

Also that people choose their partners based on certain qualities they lack. Being physical or personality traits.

For example is why most but not all women would rather marry and have children with a tall, strong man vs the opposite of that. Especially if they are short and tiny.

It’s all about the chance of the child surviving and thriving after procreation. But what’s insane is that in a now modern and civilized world we never think of this. But it’s a natural way of thinking that has been embedded into our dna for centuries