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I met a very handsome foreign man and immediately fall into him, however I am confused if he love me, use me or fool me?

On our first date, we immediately had sex and he was lashing out his failures and dreams in life. He was talking most about hi while I was only listening. After that, he became my boyfriend. He has health problem and so I did helped him in applying for a medical insurance. After a week, he ask to borrow money from me to pay for his house rent. And, I noticed when we went to eat in a restaurant he asked me to pay for all the orders and seems like he doesn’t care about it. A month after, he asked me to have a motorbike loan, cook and clean for him, rent car, register for business and have a bank loan or find investors. Me without hesitation did helped him a lot.

Few months, after I noticed him being demanding in meeting at night or sleeping over in his house. If I don’t, he gets overly mad and threatening me to find other girls. But if I comply to all his demands and wishes, he says to me that he loves me a lot and he wants to marry me one day and make a family with me.

However, while we are in a inclusive relationship and was able to met his friends and sister. I still noticed him Texting or chatting with other girls which he proclaimed as friends. I caught him cheating on bed for one time but I forgave him. He did really work on that, he tried to cook for me and Clean for me and treats me like a princess.

But few months after, I lost a lot of money due to a scam investment and had loans. I wasn’t able to give him anymore money. He got mad and most of the time insulting me useless. One day, I found him cheating again with another woman who has more money. And he left me for her. He said he already get what he wants in a girlfriend.

I only stopped shoplifting last year after getting caught and being forced to do community service hours, paying a fine and nearly losing my scholarship. I was told that next time is 6 months jail time. My boyfriend and best friend think my mother failed me by not punishing me immediately. I don't recall ever getting tough love from her.

Flashback to 2006:
- That was the very first time I stole something and knew it was wrong. I was then 7 and stole a small tattoo package, candies and cherry lip gloss. I hid them on my jacket and walked away with my mother. After 30-40 minutes, mom was taking me out to eat at Wendy's (my favorite place) and I accidentally took off my jacket. She only gave a small lecture on how it's wrong to steal and just don't do it again.
- I continued stealing things for no reason. In 5th grade, mom got a call from school about me stealing someone's homework, taking it home, and copying from that. Somehow the teacher noticed, even though I only changed some words on my paper. What did mom do? Some lecture on how it wasn't right what I did and nothing else. The topic was forgotten quickly.
- Over the years I would steal and cheat on some exams but got sneakier and didn't get caught anymore until last year.