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I get the idea behind the rule, its so the person doesn't seem desperate. But what makes wanting to call someone you want to see again desperate? If they gave you their phone number doesn't it stand to reason they want to see you again too. Why wait? So what i'm asking is who out there thinks this unofficial rule should be followed and who thinks it shouldn't? And Why?

Alright. I've heard this asked multiple times and let me clear the air. First off I'm white and married my chocolate lover after divorcing my first wife who was white.

There's a combination of things going on here complicating dating on both sides if it wasn't hard enough.

Alright as always there's general attraction. White men do find black women attractive, but like dating within our own race there are still women who are trailer trash, obese, or whatever we do not like (even if they're white). But there is preference, personally there's nothing sexier than oiling my wife up with a massage and the way her skin shines so beautifully.

Then there's we don't know if u are into us in general, if u even like white guys, if ur open-minded. It's a lot more pressure than asking someone of your race, which is mostly if they are into you not if they can dig your race and are into you.

Your hair just takes getting used to it. As a man in general we don't mess with our hair so much so when I learned all of my wife's rules it was odd but just a learning deal. (She straightens it so I can't touch it, wears this nightcap thing for moisture I hate, and she doesn't wash it as much because of the oils) men do not like weaves... you don't have to have long radiant hair but if you can stay natural.

Ignorance is next on this long list. Some people of any race don't get to meet many people of another culture and so form ideas based on a small percentage then spout their advice as the end all. Make up your own mind.

Aggressive. A lot of women ask to specify this specifically. The norm black Independant woman says things bluntly, and as they are generally. This shocks white people lol. Whites sugar coat and put on facades to each other, so it's shell shock until it's understood it's not aggressive just blatant facts (which takes time and communication).