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So this guy and I matched on tinder about 2 years back. Initially we used to text each other for hours before meeting. And he made it seem like he liked me although none of us actually confessed, and at that time i had just gotten out of a relationship so I liked talking to him and found him quiet cool and developed a crush on him. Then once he told me he doesn't wanna hurt me. So I was wondering why he said that. Then I saw that he's talking to another girl (who he later told me was his high school bff). I stalked her and didn't find her that attractive so i thought she's probably just a friend. Then the next year we weren't in touch for a very long time and I got over him because another guy came into my life. I made a fake id to stalk him on insta and saw that he's made a birthday post with a cute caption with that other girl. I wasn't jealous because I already had someone then. A few months later he texted me and wanted to finally meet me, so we met and drank at a bar and he wanted to hook up with me but i ignored his advances cause i was kind of seeing someone already. Then we met again and went for a movie and i just kept talking about this other guy who I like and asked him if he likes anyone and he said "i'm on a break with a girl" and he probably didn't like that I kept mentioning that other guy. Anyway after that day we never even spoke once and I saw that he posted another birthday post with that girl on her birthday. I honestly don't care now at all but I have a strong feeling that they were dating when we started talking, and he was probably trying to double date me with her.

My husband said it made him feel like he had a trophy wife knowing most other men want me but only he has me. It added to his confidence.

On the other end of the spectrum, I have had men behave in insanely jealous ways because they know how many other men want me.

One went through my emails determined to prove I was cheating, because I had so many options. He started yelling at me for emails he found from 5 years before we even met! I went on a date with a guy when we were just friends (before dating), and he tried to convince me the guy made a sex tape and he blackmailed the guy into not releasing me to save me. The guy and I never even had sex. We were fully clothed the whole time, kissed a bit, and then I decided he was not for me at all. He snuck into my phone and stole pictures I had from years before. He went on my social media and deleted any man.

He and others attacked male friends to me.

Other guys constantly ask me who I have been with recently and scoff with disbelief when I say no one. They say, "A hot girl like you? Yeah right. You have men knocking down your door." Yes, but I don't want to have sex with every guy who pursues me.

The most recent ex turned it into a competition in his head. He saw that if I actually tried I could get over 1,000 date offers in 24 hours. It really messed with him. He spent years trying to get attention from other women as if it was a competition. He kept cheating with girls way below even his own standards, because he was afraid he'd never get the chance again. He felt validated for a moment until the next 100 rejections piled on and he felt lonely, desperate, and worthless again. He lost his family over it. He didn't even really like the girls or the sex. He had better at home in every way, but he became obsessed. We couldn't even have sex because he lost all of the confidence that attracted me to him and couldn't perform. It really changed him for the worst. He lost sight of what he had over something so petty.