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Let's say everything started well, you thought you were in love. Considered marriage and kids and everything.

But then after a while, things began to fizzle. Maybe you realised the person you thought he was initially, is proving otherwise.

For me, the lack of conversation we have when face to face kills me. To begin with he put on a chatty facade, and for almost a year I've witnessed that he really doesn't have all that much to say in general. It's obvious we're not on the same wavelength, and when I ask questions he takes soooo long to respond. Which just leads to me getting frustrated, bored and angry. I mean, he's fine with it all, but I just feel unfulfilled.

I mean lately I've been having all manner of weird and unsettling feelings daily. Feelings I can't even pinpoint. The thought of settling with this guy scares me, kids seem almost unfathomable. Everything I once wanted has changed and it's like I've been put off even being in a relationship.

Is it possible for this to happen, or is there something wrong with me?

Hey guys,

This is a poll for those who are Christians, but if you aren't religious your opinion is still highly valued and I would love to hear it in the comment section, just don't vote please, so that I can get a clear picture of what modern young Christians think. Thank you!

I am a 25 years old virgin, engaged. The things between me and him are going great and I love everything that's going on between us but sometimes I get confused and I am afraid we do sin even though we don't do not engage in any sexual activities. Making out is as far as we go, it does get really hot and heavy sometimes though (but no hands down there, nothing like that). He did touch my breasts several times really gently though and that was amazing but I am definitely not sure about that, really. So I would appreciate your opinion on this, whatever it is!

It should be said though that both he and I are Christians but we share the opinion that when the Bible was written, people would get married really young and not even knowing each other, so obviously romantic kissing, cuddling or moreover, making out and anything further than that would be considered not appropriate. Back then the woman would be betrothed, and then they would really communicate only after their first wedding night, right? Now the situation is very different and many people date for many months or years. The society has changed GREATLY, and so did the relationships between men and women. I am saying this because it's just a fact, not because I try to make an excuse, by the way :) It's just what we are thinking and we would love to hear your opinion too. We certainly do not want to have sex before marriage. But what about all the other stuff, what about all this "grey area"?

So tell me, what are your boundaries and why? Any comments are really appreciated! Thank you in advance!

Hey guys,

So this is my first question here and I would really appreciate your answers because this is something important to me! This is a poll for those, who are Christians, but if you aren't religious, your opinion is still highly valued and I would love to hear it in the comment section, just don't vote please, so that I can get a clear picture of what modern young Christians think. Thank you!

I am a 25 years old virgin, engaged. The things between me and him are going great and I lovу everything that's going on between us but sometimes I get confused and I am afraid we do sin even though we don't do not engage in any sexual activities. Making out is as far as we go, it does get really hot and heavy sometimes though (but no hands down there, nothing like that). He did touch my breasts several times really gently though and that was amazing but I am definitely not sure about that, really. So I would appreciate your opinion on this, whatever it is!

It should be said though that both he and I are Christians but we share the opinion that when the Bible was written, people would get married not even knowing each other, so obviously romantic kissing, cuddling or moreover, making out and anything further than that would be considered not appropriate. Back then the woman would be betrothed, and then they would really communicate only after their first wedding night, right? Now the situation is very different and many people date for many months or years. The society has changed GREATLY, and so did the relationships between men and women. I am saying this because it's just a fact, not because I try to make an excuse, by the way :) It's just what we are thinking. We certainly do not want to have sex before marriage. But what about all the other stuff, what about all this "grey area"?

So tell me, what are your boundaries and why? Any comments are really appreciated! Thank you in advance!