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Just out of curiosity, but I noticed that women these days seem to have no standards, and the few of us who do are written off as gold diggers or snobs in an effort to make us lower our standards.

Like for instance, if a woman wanted to wait say 6 months to a year to have sex, most men are not going to put in the effort to be with that women because other women are much more willing to open their legs. Why wait 6 months for one when you can have multiple within the span of a few days?

Or if a woman wants a man to make a certain amount of money, she's a gold digger. I know for me, I would want a man to make at least what I make because I do not want to be taking care of a grown ass man. However, I've been called a gold digger because of this (which is dumb. I'm a teacher and make less than $45,000 a year). Yet I know many women who are married, but their husbands make half of what they make, and the men like it because the responsibility of providing isn't really on their shoulders.

I had a friend who struggles in the area of looks, too. She's about average build and pretty, but men seem to only want thin white women. However, these guys are often overweight themselves and do not necessarily take care of themselves. But women are so desperate to want a man that they'll accept it. However, she and I both know that if she wanted a body builder guy then she'd be considered ridiculous.

Or the latest argument is women should pay for themselves on a date instead of the man paying. Not saying men should always pay, but for some reason women do not require guys to pay on the first date anymore. Women who do are seen as shallow.


These things weren't really even issue up until maybe 15 years ago.


So do you think that if women as a whole brought back standards that men would put more effort into dating?