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We dated for almost 4 months in the summer. We broke up, he has a new girlfriend a few weeks later. Continued to IM me on AIM. I couldn't take it anymore and blocked him on AIM, MySpace. It's been 2 months for them as a couple.

Just recently at work (yes we're coworkers), in the last few weeks, we talk and joke around like we used to back in the day. We were friends for several months before the tension and closeness just got the best of us and we dated.

I'm not sure but I wonder lately. I catch him staring at me, and sometimes he holds it for longer than expected. He stands very close to me at times when he couldn't do that after the break up.

He comes up to talk about anything at all, even the most randoms things. He flings rubber bands at me, shows me funny texts from his cell, brings back old inside jokes/stories from back in the day. Basically, it's exactly like old times before & during our relationship.

Many of our coworkers aren't too fond of his girl and think he has changed a bit. Some predict it won't last. I've almost completely moved on. My vibes are picking up little signals but I don't know anymore!

What is your impression? Do you think we are treading a dangerous path by being friends again at work? I still have him blocked on the net and I never text or call him (neither does he). Might he still harbor a little affection for me? Is he just being friendly?

There was a girl on G.A.G who said that she was so fed up with guys that all she wanted to do was use them for money. Both men and woman jumped on her and told her that she was an idiot who gave gals a bad name--and rightfully so. I have never used my bad experiences as a reason to treat someone bad. I usually tried to move on and make at least new and somewhat more evolved mistakes.

However, a man who had bad relationship experiences went off about how gals just don’t want good guys, so he was going to use and abuse them, and men all high fived him and some women even agreed.

What is wrong with this picture?

It is the idea that women “get what they deserve” while men are “victims” of manipulative women. In this case aren’t we saying women are smarter than men and should know better while men are dumb and can only be led around by the nose? I don‘t think that and I believe that ideology would be insulting to males….

Or, couldn’t it be that women are just as prone to being victimized OR that men are just as guilty of making dumb choices.

Apparently not. If a woman get heart broken by a snake guys goes ”Well that is what she gets for picking a jerk”

On the other hand, if a guy get goes all out with flowers, candy and expensive dinners and is hurt by the “she didn’t want a nice guy” syndrome, he has all the right in the world to lash out and play the victim card?

Could it be he was chasing a girl not based on her character but on her looks? He didn’t’ investigate to see if she was woman of character who would appreciate a man like him. He put all his pearl before swine and then chose to blame the swine for doing what a swine does.

Newsflash for both guys and gals--dating is a getting to know one another process. It isn’t marriage or an invite into the sack. Women seeking a hubby should at least wait past the first few date before thinking the man has no right to date others. Men, if you are paying money just to land a girl in the sack--try the more direct approach with a hooker--it is more honest and you get exactly what you want.

Otherwise stop with all the bitterness and fingerprinting. Don’t date if you don’t wish to spend money--or do free things--like go to the park or the beach--pack a picnic--a girl who is down to earth won’t mind and may find it more romantic. Isn’t that what you are REALLY looking for?

I have found that people who mature and picked a mate based on things that are real and not superficial end up with them finding what they want--male and female alike.

Stop the blame game on both sides--take responsibility for your actions and stop using the fact that you made dumb choices as an excuse to act like a horrid human being.

Maybe then you will find what you are looking for.