25 Signs To Know For SURE He’s Not Into You!


1. Accommodating but not engaging

This is a precursor to a relationship failure. When you look at his placid smiling face, it is probably just his penis smiling back, he knows he is no longer into you but his sex drive refuses to give up the booty.

2. Doesn’t reciprocate

I remember once saying, “I love you,” she hesitated for a second and responding as if talking to an adorable puppy. “Awwee… I love you too.” Ouch! I suddenly realized that she had moved on from me. So, I kicked the puppy and broke up with her!

3. Friends become a greater priority

This one bums me out because often a guy doesn’t know why he is unhappy and he thinks the solution lies with seeing less of you. Granted absence makes the heart grow fond, but jeez, I still can’t stand my obese, bull dog faced aunt Connie even after 15 years, maybe we need more time?

4. Spends more time at work

This is an avoidance tactic like above, he is uncomfortable with you and his subconscious or conscious is creating more work. OR… he is busy Zeroxing his coworkers privates in the coffee room.

5. He stops listening

He used to like you and he feels a bit indebted since he almost proposed the first week. He still tries to listen but the passion is gone and he wants nothing more than to smack his former self around for committing to you. Save him the effort, do the smacking for him and get out.

6. Sex starts to dwindle

This is huge! Even a man has a hard time being genuine with sex if he is not into the girl. If all you get is the random 30 seconds up against the fridge, his genitals have finally gotten on board with his head. Of course, it is possible he has gone gay, look for signs of anal leakage in his discarded underwear.

7. You contact him, he doesn’t respond

Major major sign. However, so many girls turn a blind eye to this, thinking for some reason it is normal for you to text/call him 39 times in one day without a response. Stop this now!! but if you want to understand how to get the power back read my book to become badass at texting!

The more he wants to wander mentally, the more his eyes follow suit.

8. Looks at or talks about other women

To my shame, most guys do this, it is inevitable. However, the more he wants to wander mentally the more his eyes follow suit. So if you see him lusting after the waitress with a butt like two little coconuts, you might consider getting implants or getting out.

9. Makes negative comments about your body, clothes or appearance

This generally happens when the honeymoon is over. Reality has hit and if your relationship doesn’t have more than the physical to hold it together, he will attack it. Ironically, even if he looks Marylyn Manson after a 3-day crack hangover he will still have the audacity to criticize you.

10. He is looking for a fight

Once I was unhappily in an average relationship for 8 months, why? Because we never fought about anything, there was no reason to break up! If he is trying to start a fight he very well might be trying to find a reason to get out. Or possibly he is doing steroids or just ran out of meth? (In that case, don’t worry he is still into you)

11. Hides your tooth brush/earrings/underwear

I used to have a bowl in the kitchen that I would put all the stuff girls left at my house. “Have you seen my earrings,” a girl might ask. Yeah there in the bowl, she would later look at me in horror after she dug through the bird’s nest of hair ties, toothbrushes, and underwear (sometimes I would add stuff for fun). If a guy is exclusive with you and has no problem with your presence, he will NEVER be annoyed by all the articles of garbage you shed in his man cave.

12. Gets secretive with his phone

Possibly he is planning a surprise party for you!!! Or he is slipping the baloney-pony to your best friend? No way to be sure, so I would chalk this up as an indicator only. So, should you search his phone when he is gone? Sure! and after that I hope he really does sleep with your best friend, you dishonest scumbag!

13. Multitasks when you are talking

All this means is that you have taken a less important role in his life and he feels that watching porn and solving the newest sudoku puzzle is perfectly acceptable while you blab in the background. Do yourself a favor, blab to your girlfriends ONLY and maybe, just maybe he might still be into you.

14. He appears and disappears

I once dated a shockingly pretty girl that I was shockingly not into. I couldn’t really understand why I wasn’t into her since she was so attractive, so I started waiting just long enough for me to become sexually curious again to contact her, sometimes it took up to a week! Eventuality, I realized that I wasn’t attracted to a girl that was totally confused by Twilight’s story line.

15. Introduces you as a friend!!??

Want to know what he really thinks of you? Observe how he introduces you and talks to friends and family about you. If he is the slightest bit embarrassed or keeps referring to you as a friend you either have a totally spineless man or he is secretly GAY and he has to think about Taylor Lautner to stay hard.

16. You initiate all intimacy

Do you feel like he is masturbating inside of you rather than making love? That your vagina might be just a wetter substitute for his hand? To test this get a tattoo of a fist over your vag and watch how he responds. (Don’t worry you can always grow your hair back to hide it)

25 Signs To Know For SURE He’s Not Into You!

17. Changes plans on you

Any guy that has respect and concern for the girl he is dating won’t do this. This screams that he doesn’t really want to go out with you and considers a night stoned with friends, watching Wayne’s World for the 50th time more important that you.

18. Your friends are not impressed

When we are in a relationship we become somewhat blind to what is obvious to others. (Part of the reason we need concrete lists like this to ID the truth) Friends and family however are not caught up in your emotional confusion and if they don’t like how he treats you it would be best to listen. But… on second thought you know what is best for you, and that hideous heart-crushing breakup will make you stronger, right?

19. He doesn’t want to meet your friends.

He shields you from his friends. This is very closely related to the one above, since he realizes instinctively that he is not at that level with you yet. This could mean that he is not that into you or that he is a recluse that might have a panic attack around too many people. (That beard and the bloodshot eyes might give it away)

20. He starts to tease you more than normal

This is similar to number 9, picking on your appearance. The reason he does this is the same reason you might get annoyed with a guy that kisses your ass too much. He has lost respect for you and he is picking on you to see if you will fight back. Cut to the chase, call him an asshole, and punch him in the nose. Surprisingly, you might just get him back after doing this.

21. Doesn’t go out of his way for you

He used to open doors for you, fold your laundry, and let you orgasm first. Now he won’t even air out the chair he just farted on, he might not be into you.

22. Future talk disappears

When you first met, he made adorable comments like, “Can you imagine how cute are kids would be?” Now he says things like, “I am thinking about moving to China…” I can promise you that he wants to go alone.

Friday date night now consists of the newest 'Fast and Furious' movie.

23. Romance dried up

Romance is the art of spontaneity. Before he slayed your heart by showing up with roses and your favorite ice cream. Now, Friday date night consists of the newest 'Fast and Furious' movie, while he tries to reenact the lousy sex scenes.

24. Starts working out and looking good

Before you were comfortably fat together, now he is starting to look kinda hot and it is a bit disturbing. Rather than turned on by his new body, you feel threatened, you fuck everything up due to your insecurity and suddenly he has a new girlfriend. What just happened??

25. He was overly enthusiastic in the beginning

God, it was amazing when you first met. He just swept you off your feet, you were sure that he was the one. You even told your parents about him after the 2nd date. Suddenly he just shut off! And you are left hanging with a broken heart and a mild sexual addiction. Get a dildo, watch some porn and be more careful next time!!

Why you might NOT need this list

Now a small dose of reality, him not being into you, could totally be in your head and you being fearful of him leaving might actually be paving the way for it to occur. I have never wanted to leave a girl more than one that was constantly suspicious of my every action. You must consider that you very well might be driving him to this end through your fear, and expectation of rejection.

Who in the world can blame a guy for not being into a girl that is constantly analyzing his every move in order to protect herself from hurt? You want a good relationship? Throw yourself out there and trust. It didn’t work? So what, happens to the best of us, but we don’t give up. At the least, promise yourself that you wont EVER be the cause of him running due to your fear and insecurities.

Why you might need this list

It is very possibly that you might need this list if you are oblivious to his actions and overly absorbed in emotion. Maybe you are the kind of girl that lives on fantasy Island with the midget and the old dude. Regardless how much you want this island to exist it never will because it is only a TV show and a bad one at that. Wishing and ignoring the truth is a wonderful way to find yourself in an incredibly weak situation. Sure he might not want to be the kind of guy to take advantage of someone sweet and kind like you but he also might find it very hard to turn down free sex from a girl that worships him. Even the best guys are weak sometimes.

So, who are you?

The paranoid girl that manifests a shitty relationship?

Or the clueless optimist that constantly gets used?

Hopefully you are neither, and this article just gave you a laugh and a knowing smile from past mistakes.

25 Signs To Know For SURE He’s Not Into You!
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Most Helpful Girls

  • chosen1
    ...the second relationship was a tricky one I'm still dealing with, maybe you can help me out...I've been hooking up with this guy for over 5 years now. He's never admitted feelings, but knows I'm in love with him. when we're alone, the chemistry is there, but over the years we've both stopped bring each other around our friends...idk my reason for this exactly either. he's had me as a girl on the side since day 1. this is totally the "clueless optimist that constantly gets used" scenario isn't it?
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    • Hawaiikid

      Gurl i feel you! Going through something similiar! PM me if u needa talk about it sometime

  • greeneyedgal
    This needs to replace the recommendations in the book, "He's Just Not That Into You." You're more specific, everything is logical and true. I found this article extremely informative. Excellent resource for the ladies! Thank you!!!!
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Most Helpful Guys

  • WeaponZero
    I would say that if one, two, or even three of these things is true in your case, it's nothing unusual at all and nothing to worry about. It's when you have MULTIPLE occurrences of these warning signs, at least five difference ones, is when you should start to worry.

    It is important though that women know DO NOT ASSUME PROBLEMS WHERE THERE ARE NONE! Do not let your insecurities govern your suspicions. More important than any of these signs is just plain and simple trust.
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  • WeaponZero
    Don't let any guide book such as this or "He's Just Not That Into You" or anything else lead you to start looking for problems where there are none, because that will lead to what is called a "self fulfilling prophecy" and all your worst fears WILL come true solely because of your own insecurity not allowing you to accept things at face value.
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What Girls & Guys Said

  • bruvleigh
    my question is for the girls on these articles. How on earth can YOU know if its accurate? your a girl... Only a guy can tell you if he's right cause the whole point of the article is to inform girls who DONT know. You can agree with the points and all but is kind of pointless until you take the time to look at wether the guys agree
  • StarsInTheEyes
    Nicely written, but can you please explain the first point further? Thank you.

    What's considered "accommodating but not engaging"?

    I didn't see what's wrong with a smile. Do you mean that his face is smiling but his heart isn't? The penis smiling also confused me when I was interpreting your writing.
  • chosen1
    Dude...wtf? this is too weird. it's like you were commentating on my last 2 relationships. 1st one endded dude to him doing the whole, not answering the phone, extra time at work phase until he got caught up...ya, I started questioning him a bit, but it was because I constantly caught him lying. I guess you're right, it WAS due to my insecurities and fear of being hurt once again. damn. so for that relationship I was in the "paranoid girl that manifests a sh*tty relationship"....
  • WeaponZero
    With men, often times, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and swims like a duck, then it IS just a duck, not a goose who is cheating on the gander. Many women have a very very hard time understanding this concept, and to THOSE women, guides like this only add to the long list of problems that will ensure any relationship they enter into will be short-lived and end badly.
  • WeaponZero
    A good bit of it is true but a lot of it is not. For example, it's not bad or unusual for a guy who's overweight to suddenly start wanting to lose weight. There are many reasons that can cause this, such as just overall health reasons, or maybe he's looking into taking up a hobby that necessitates being in better shape.
  • anon8
    I don't know which one I am, but I'm pretty sure I could be the paranoid girl who manifests sh*tty relationships. Lately I found out my ex never hated me... and yeah, I guess I thought he did. He did some of the things on the list though! Some of them didn't bother me though so much. Maybe it's also a preference thing. This list isn't totally exclusive!!! Agree?
  • xkrisx
    In a way you have to use common sense with this. a guy could be working more because he has to work more. My boyfriend is a firefighter so there's definitely weeks/days where he may have work more or stay later. it happens. Others of these, like insulting your appearance, there's no excuse for. anyone else agree?
  • Yeahhbro
    I don't know about 24 and 11. I mean with 24 have you ever though that maybe he wants to look good for his girlfriend?. And 11 its just...weird? Lol I never did that to any of my ex's I don't maybe too personal? But the rest are true regardless good job
  • latinabutterfly96
    “You might consider getting implants or getting out.”

    Or maybe the guy needs to grow up, and be a man, and take responsibility for his own relationship. The woman isn’t responsible if he cheats on her. (Same thing if the roles were reversed)
    • I agree. In addition, I do have a nice rear, so if my man would choose somebody else only for her butt, then he'd be out. I would feel greatly insulted.

  • hsshannah96
    What does it mean when the guy said they’re ok with just being friends but they keep subtly escalating stuff each time you are with them and it is making me nervous
  • littlemermaid89
    number 25! It did happened... for two months and now he's gone. wow. and I'm not the possessive type either, more of a layback one. Thanks for pointing these signs up!
  • BeInnovative
    I am sorry but I haven't seen anything as ridiculous as 11th. It is something a kid does. Thankfully I dont date kids and hopefully I won't in the future.
  • Missionoftri
    Wow, my boyfriend just started doing a majority of what is listed here for a whole week. All this happened after a bad fight. Is there any hope?
    • dartmaul15

      at least try making him sit the fuck down and talk through it.
      There is hope, but only if you two can sit down and realize it's you two together vs the problem.
      If not, it likely won't work...

  • xxCamisadoxx
    Really sucks how accurite it is with my man, just add accuses me of cheating and its pretty much spot on...
  • kisi85
    Damn, I think I am the clueless optimist. I always get hurt! :( But this is very funny! Actually makes me feel better! ha
  • mikethemasterdater
    Naw... not really worth it. Don't let something like this become a battle of "who's right" or who is gonna dump who. Just get out and find someone new, in all reality it really doesn't have to be a bad thing.
  • deelee
    Thats a gud laugh and its true, now that's what hurts the most but true
  • pinkhorse
    Oh noooooo! My guy just ticked 11 out of 25. But maybe I'm just paranoid... LOL!
  • allies097
    I would add number 26. He doesn't want you to meet his family or avoids any details about his life
  • Pejtu
    all of this is true
    if your man doesn't want to pound you after 3 days break something is wrong :)
  • Aiko_E_Lara
    Next up, 25+ signs to know for sure if she's not into you!
  • natlope
    Wow. and to think I just realized all of this. you only reassured a few things. Is it safe to play his game and give him a taste of his own medicine?!
  • mikethemasterdater
    This list is more here to make you laugh, if you can identify with it, even better.
  • tiffanydaniels
    This happened few months back, i noticed some changes towards me which had never been so. I decided to confide in my friend. She told me to hire the service of a private investigator which i did. I got one I searched for "hackingbim home" on google. These guys were able to give me unrestricted access to his mobile device. I read all his instant messenger chat where i saw he was truly having an affair with his secretary. So bad!!
    try searching for "hackingbim home" on google to get in touch asap
  • The_Revolver
    Thanks, now I'll be able to tell if he isn't into me
  • LookatwhatGabysdoing
    Tanks really needed that the whole "your might not need this list" totally hit the nail on the head
  • highp
    Very good points, I agree with many
  • freedomofscript
    All very true...
  • rdabby
    I hate this article, its so true!! Hmmm
  • unsure2009
    So spot on it's ridiculous
  • Angeliki
    I really need your help, man!
  • Nice take, it made me laugh haha
  • sweet18
    So true. And I love your style
  • Ioso29640
    Or just ask him...
  • Clyde_123
    Haha This article is very true.
  • Anon-ymous1
    Um... 25? What, like seven or eight wouldn't do?
  • Nice take
  • mikethemasterdater
    You hate it because it is true??
  • mikethemasterdater
    Well thanks sweetie!
  • mikethemasterdater
    Excellent! I like to be ridiculous and spot on.
  • mikethemasterdater
    Thank you!

  • shamwowisbomb
    Lmao on #15. xDD
  • Anonymous
    When he's only looking for sex. Dark skin black women experience this LMFAO
  • Anonymous
    I just assume no straight men are attracted to me bc i look like a man/dyke lmao.
  • Anonymous
    Do you really keep old girlfriend toothbrushes and earnings? That one creepy man. Would be shocked a woman would want your company on realising what you are.