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My boyfriend started working late nights with a mortuary company. He started pretending he had calls to get done. I believed he was cheating so it got bad and we went our own way. I went to get my car back and caught him red handed with another girl in the car. That night I pulled up he offered me money to go home but I noticed a shadow in the drive way and I managed to run up to the car and found a girl with 2 kids. I didn’t fight her. I took her with me bc she didn’t have a way of getting home and had kids and he also got away in my other car ( I’m dumb af) later that night he broke into my room and was sleeping on my bed. I went through his phone and he had another girl he was actually having a sexual relationship with. I confronted him and exposed him on his IG page. His guy friends congratulated him for his actions, at the end of the day a lot of girl thanked me. I decided to get back with him and forgive him. When he finally took me to his new place he was renting I noticed pictures of a girl who looked familiar , second time around I recognized who it was. It’s his ex from years ago. I was mad but at the same time he brings me over and sometimes I cook there. I don’t know how to feel about it. She’s not always around but when she is she offers him food her mom cooked or she whines and wants to talk about how she got hurt that day , he doesn’t say much just gets back to his room. I just wonder if he had conversations with her before I came around and even ate with her. He’s friendly and doesn’t say no when someone offers him food/conversations. It only makes me wonder what else he’ll accept. I forgot to say the first night I slept over the ex came back & just opened his room door.. she saw me laying down. Since then she keeps her distant but wtf? I’m obviously in love with this guy and tolerate his bs. I’m 23 and he’s 30 He like to act like he doesn’t need me but at the same time he knows he has advantage bc my cars are under his name. I was 19 b4.

My brother used to live within a 2 day drive which allowed me and the family to visit him and my nephews at least 2x a year. Then he moved clear across the country near ZERO family, so the only way I can see them, is if I fork over a ton of money and fly. I am on a life goals plan that requires a lot of saving and sacrifice, especially after my business took a deep hit during the brunt of Covid. As a result of that, its been non stop work all hours of the day and night because with the online business, it never sleeps.

Like most people in this situation burning the candle at both ends, I need a vacation, but my brother has been asking me to come visit them and laying on the guilt trip. Aside from the money issue, because they have had no babysitters or family coming regularly because of the distance, whenever I have come, I have become defacto babysitter every single time. I don't want to spend what may be my one vacation having to look after 2 young screaming crying kids. Love them, but young kids are exhausting, and I need a true vacation for my sanity and they consider me visiting them, free babysitting because they don't get time off either without the kids. Am I being selfish for not wanting to go?