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I'm a girl, he's a guy. We're police officers. We've been best friends & work partners for 7 years. He's been with me through a divorce, a near fatal car accident & then the birth of my child, I've been with him through a divorce, the depression that followed & recently, a marriage. He's the most loyal, honest, moral man i know, until now. The thing is, we've always been respectful, he's always been attractive to me but I never acknowledged it & he did the same. For 7 years we were perfect sibling like friends. Well, last year he was drinking & we were texting, as usual & he told me he used to think about marrying me & that he's been attracted to me since the day we met. He began to name times, conversations & events that were significant to him. He told me he wished we would have gotten together & he regrets not speaking up. I was but overwhelmingly flattered. I confessed that I felt the same. Since then we have engaged in a fantasy "what if" relationship, complete with sexting. The issue im having is this, he remarried his ex wife a week after he confessed to me. They are trying to have a baby. I am in a ltr with a man who is not very good to me but I've never cheated on him or considered it until now. My best friend wants to have an affair with me. I want him, I would love to be with him because we love each other & want each other so much. I dont know how we could be detached though & I'm not sure who I'm more concerned about, him or me. I realize how selfish this is, we both agree that the right outweighs the wrong. If we do this am I going to lose my best friend? If we don't do this will he find someone else? I'm confused, kind of.

I'm curious because in a psych class we were doing a role play and I ended up talking about my friendship with my boyfriend's best friend and the weird dream I had about him, and the girl I was working with said it sounded like he likes me but I don't think so.

I first met him at my boyfriend's NYE get together and was initially attracted to him because he was the second most attractive guy there and the most attractive (my now boyfriend) and I worked together so I thought that would be a no-go. My boyfriend and I started dating that night and I originally was very reserved around his friend. He ended up moving for military reasons so I basically forgot about the whole thing.

Over the course of a year we went out to visit him twice. He and I started to become friends and when my boyfriend proposed on our second trip, he made a comment about how I was the best thing to happen to my boyfriend and how he better take care of me. A few months later he came home on leave before he moved again for military reasons. The first Friday night, I got really drunk off of his margaritas and we went up to talk about his girl problem and make more while the rest of the bros were down stairs. I DREAMT that we planned an affair but we really didn't. I told my boyfriend about it and he wasn't concerned and when I told his friend he seemed worried.

The next week we went over again for drinks and I was keeping up with his friend drink for drink, and he said that's why he liked me. Anyways we ended up going outside to smoke and started talking about relationship issues. I was worried my boyfriend didn't like me because we stopped having sex and he said any time I have that problem to tell him and he'll fix things. He did and still checks in with my boyfriend. He did say though that we can't be friend-friends until we are official married due to his problems with my man's past girlfriends. He also picks me up every time he sees or says good bye.