There are many obvious signs that your relationship won't last, such as non-stop fighting, abuse or cheating. Those are the big ones. But there are so many smaller signs of relationship breakdowns that psychologists and relationships experts have identified as key behaviors that will tear you two apart. Checkout to see if you and yours occasionally fall into any of these categories. If you do, stop now if you can, otherwise your're relationship is probably doomed.
Your conflicts always include criticism and contempt.
By not saying please and thank you when you ask your partner to get something done, it probably starts off with some insult: Are you normal/crazy?
Do you have some sort of mental condition? Or are you just too stupid to remember to do what I said? The criticism is not about the task—it's about the person. Any version of "What is wrong with you?" basically attacks the other person's character, which chips away at the person. Contempt is expressed non-verbally: eye-rolling, sneering, or imitating the person's mannerisms. And contempt just causes more drama.
There is no trust.
If someone has cheated, either sexually or financially or emotionally on you it breaks the bonds of the relationship, and sometimes the breach is not fixable. If you want to fix it, the person who broke the trust needs to be willing to be accountable to their partner, tell the truth all the time, and give up a lot of privacy until the trust is rebuilt.
There's not a lot of touching going on.
Touch is how people communicate it's the building block of connection and intimacy in romantic relationships. Happy couples are fondling each other all the time. It's the the true indicator of a healthy relationship is not how often your partner touches you, but how often he or she touches you in response to your touch. Also it's about touching outside of the bedroom that's not sexual.
There's too much drama.
If you're having temper tantrums, hissy fits, and bouts of nasty name-calling then you need to learn to communicate in a healthier way otherwise you won't be a couple long. Couples fight all the time but you have to learn how to listen and how to give up the drama in order to resolve the issue without hitting below the belt.
No deep emotions are expressed.
If one person is not sharing their deep feelings of anger or fear and they become cold, it probably means that they've gone past the point of hurt and have cut off all feelings toward the other. If one or both parties won't talk about what he or she feels and thinks, or one of them won't listen, the relationship won't make it unless that person makes a change and opens up.
Someone has outside entanglements.
If an Ex is not really an Ex, or one partner is involved elsewhere (either with a romantic affair, with an ex, or is even too caught up with work, other family members, or children) and won't devote time to his or her relationship then the relationship is doomed.
You're losing interest in one another.
If you go out together or sit down to dinner and don't speak to each other or have nothing to say and don't have any shared hobbies or interests, you're probably not going to stay together. Couples who simply stop sharing their inner world with each other stop being friends, and then the relationship can't grow.
There's a total lack of empathy.
If your partner can't sympathize with you when you cry or are hurt then they probably don't love you anymore/ A relationship has reached critical mass when there is little or no identification with the other person's feelings. Many times, acouple becomes cruel to one another in an effort to make the other one suffer too, to experience how bad he or she feels and that is the road to relationship hell.
There's zero motivation to make any of it better.
If there is no try, then you'll know why. They simply don't care enough to make an effort to make you happy and if it get's to that, then an apathetic breakup is probably not far behind. Best way to find out, ask your partner: 'Do you really want this relationship?' Their reaction should tell you everything.
Did I miss any signs?
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Yep, these all apply sadly. I just knew these were creeping up.
This MyTake is right on point!
One of the few MyTakes that I can't disagree with.