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So let me start by saying that this girl has professionally diagnosed mental disorders. Professionals realize that there is something not well with this woman.

About a year ago, she reached out to me after not talking for 2 years. We were in other countries by that point, but she had decided that she wanted me to be a part of her future (her words).

Over the course of this last year, she did very little to communicate with me, while I messaged her a great deal. I was told by many women (including some who had the condition she was diagnosed with), that I should stick with her, because she definitely liked me, and eventually the problems would sort themselves out.

Well after a few months of her trying to change and not succeeding; she had gotten this idea in her head that I was trying to control her, because I wanted to help give her some motivation to break the cycle she appeared to be in. She had started to not trust me, and randomly decided to just stop communicating with me. She would still respond well to my romantic messages and flirtations, but she flat out refused to tell me about anything going on in her life.

Well lo' and behold, it turned out that she hiding the fact that she'd gotten into a grad school (with the personal statement I'd written for her, because her English isn't great, and her nerves were a mess), because she didn't feel that she "owed me every detail about her life." She was about to move back to my country within the week, and didn't want to tell me. The only reason I know is because I did some detective work.

She decided to send my messages and emails to some mutual friends, and tell them that I'm super creepy. I was scaring her, trying to exploit her mental health and ignoring her signals. We then blocked each other on absolutely everything. Her little stunt has cost me business relationships, soiled my reputation, and been a massive aggravation.

The mental health problems are part of what concerns me that she might reach out.

I realize that, for a more extreme example, a girl under similar circumstances to a Western male incel, could actually still land a boyfriend with some ease. What I mean is if she is in a cycle of depression, lack of motivation, lack of self esteem, and loneliness with very few irl friends, this doesn't seem to dramatically deter attraction from men as far as I know. I. e. men still tend to accept this potential side of female humanity should they encounter such. It may rather make a man feel good that he can help heal a woman from such a rut.

Prettiness is a huge factor though, but the vast, vast majority of women are not considered visually unattractive by men, unlike the other way around. Unfortunately, modern men and women don't prioritize virtue though, if we even care much for that at all outside the idea of, "committing to your goals", which doesn't even mean you're a good or ethical person. So despite the fact that most, most women can find a sexual partner almost instantly, they don't have faith that they can have a committed and substantive relationship that will go somewhere.

Yet with all that said, underneath all of our societal lack of virtue at least in the West, men are still both culturally and biologically driven to serve, help, and forge their lives with women.

But could women be leaving men hanging here, despite all the progress? Do women really care about their sexual partners/spouses/S. O.'s/and potential partners? Or is it almost exclusively about self interest, judging how "hot" his "masculine and/or fun personality" is, and of course how hot he looks?

Is a gentle, kind heart enough for a woman in the way that it is enough for a man? Please vote and explain your thoughts in the comments.