Life is hard as it is but we don’t need a lot of things weighing us down from being happy. Sometimes, we think there is no way out of situations and we have no choice but to keep living the way we live but there is always a choice. You either live with it or get out of it. I was inspired to write this article after watching a video of letting go. Maybe some of us need to hear this at this very moment.
Here are things we need to get rid of now:
You’ve been the same person stuck in the same rut for years and you wonder why. Look in the mirror and blame the person on it. You always come up with excuses why you’re not doing what you should be doing. It’s time to rid of that vicious cycle and get on the program. Go to the gym. Get rid of those unwanted pounds. Cut your calories. Look and feel your best! Quit your boring dead end job and grab that offer from another company that offers you endless possibilities. Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side. Take a risk!
You blame yourself for everything (failed relationships/life falling apart) and it’s been pulling you down. You lose touch of people you love because you closed yourself off from the world. Accept your faults/mistakes and learn from them. Mistakes and failure make us human. Your wife left you to be with someone else. She complained you work too many hours. But you were working your hardest to put a roof over the family’s head and pay bills. Again, do not blame yourself that you didn’t have time for her and your marriage. She chose to leave. It is over. Move on!
Things happen for a reason and one of the reasons is you decided to let it happen. Let go of things that cannot be undone. They already happened. Experience is the best teacher. Do not do it again. So you cheated? You had an affair with someone. You were weak at one of the lowest times of your life. You gave in to temptation. Forgive yourself and promise not to do it again! Ever!
4. Toxic people
Just because you share a last name or blood or a long history together doesn’t mean you have to put up with them; the abuse, the negativity, the lies, and the hurt they put you through. Enough is enough, cut the cord that binds you and live your own life. After all it’s your life, not theirs. Sometimes they think they have your best interest at heart, but they forget you are your own person and need to think for yourself what’s good for you. Like your best friend that has been back stabbing you or your girlfriend who treats you more like a punching bag than her boyfriend.
5. Over thinking
Alas, this is one of my worst habits. Over thinking is poison. It’s like sitting on a car with no gas, you are going nowhere. It causes us so much unnecessary stress. We create problems from nothing and predict things that haven’t happened yet. We hurt relationships because we think they’re doing something behind our back or they’re going to hurt us before we even give them a chance. Just because you’ve been burned before, doesn’t mean this new guy you’re seeing will hurt you like your ex husband did.
What you can do today, do it NOW. Don’t wait for tomorrow or something might come up before you put things into action. Do not wait for it to be too late when things are out of your control. Start working on that school project now even if the deadline is still a few weeks from now. Keep up with realistic deadlines. Set goals! Check them off one by one!
7. Self hate/doubt
Nothing is worse than hating yourself. When you start second guessing yourself, that means you don’t love yourself enough to have faith in it that you can make things happen only if you practice self love. How do you expect someone else to love you if you can’t bring yourself to appreciate the beauty in you? Think about that. No one else can help you if you don’t carry yourself up and move forward to a better you. You have a talent, show it off! Master a new skill. Accentuate your flaws. Work with what you have! Stop wanting to be someone else! Be the best version of yourself. “You were born original. Do not die a copycat.”
8. No direction
Do you know where you’re going to? Do you know what you want to do in life? Do you want to have kids and a wife/husband? Do you want to be your own boss or work for someone else? Do you want to get a degree? What are you doing with your life? Is this it? Have a to do list, a bucket list! Start fulfilling them as you go. You’re not getting any younger! Live each day like it’s your last! Damn YOLO. You die only once.
9. Self harm
Many at times, we think and feel that the only go to things that can make us feel better are yes - things! Food, alcohol, cigarettes, casinos, shopping, etc give us a sense of short lived euphoria that our love ones cannot fill and because of that, we appreciate things and use people instead of the other way around. Surround yourself with people who love you instead of drowning in debt or purchasing things that you don’t really need to impress people who don’t even like you! Plus, things cannot love you back!
So you failed again? So what? Another relationship that didn’t work out. Move on! It takes two to tango. Maybe one or both of you failed to keep the relationship going. You got rejected? Congratulations! It’s called real life. It hurts yes! Like a mf! But accept the fact, you are not alone! People get rejected/fail every day.
A year or years from now, you will be stuck where you at now, if you cling to these life damaging habits and don’t do anything to abort them out of your life for good. Do not feel bad for yourself because you are the author of your life story. How it ends is in your hands. Ask for help. Talk to people who will help you uplift your spirits and stay away from the ones who bring you down and damage your psyche. Build yourself up to be someone you’re going to be proud of one day. It will not be easy. But one day, you will look back of how far you’ve gone and things you have done to the road of happiness.
Thanks for the time reading, loves.