1. Toxic People
These are the people you can't stand, that drag you down, that never seem to care about or support you in a meaningful way. These are the people you cannot be around for long without absolutely feeling drained in your soul. These are people who cheat on you, lie to you, bully you, and tear you down. These are the people who suck the very air out of a room. Really ask yourself before 2018, why it is you feel that at your age, at whatever phase you are in life or in a relationship, that you seem to feel that you still need these people in your life, and then do something about it before you end up continuing with the baggage of 2017's toxic people, in 2018.
2. Excess
If you are excessively drinking, if you're still smoking, if you have an out of control spending or eating habit, these things are holding you back from being healthy, from having good relationships with other people, and from good mental health and clarity. You quite literally need to work on ways in which you can begin to get these things out of your life because you deserve health and clarity. Too much food, drug and alcohol abuse, out of control spending aren't going to help you in the short or long term.
3. Debt
This is one of the number one causes of stress for adults. Always living your life with the albatross of debt around your neck. Believe me when I say, this will not get better if you ignore it. You ruin your credit history, you have trouble making purchases and saving, you can end up in bankruptcy court or being sued over large debts, you name it. Even if you have a lot of it, take a deep breath, and contact those around you who can help you tackle this problem or consult the internet for ideas from the thousands of people who have been where you are and can tell you how they got out of it. This is not a hopeless situation unless you believe it to be one. Start with baby steps and commit to getting rid of your debt so a year, 3, 5, however long it takes, you can stop having to deal with debt collectors and work on your won financial literacy.
4. Perfection
There is nothing wrong with wanting to do better, be better, or try harder, but if you are running on this constant hamster wheel of "I have to be perfect...or else," you're only going to end up extremely unhappy, miserable, and in pain at trying to be something that it is impossible to be. If the cake you bake doesn't look like the picture, so what. If you can't sew a costume like the other moms, buy one. If you can't gain enough muscle or lose enough weight so you look like the picture in a health magazine, know that you are doing what you can do and that IS good enough. If your life doesn't look like your friend's on Facebook, stop comparing yourself to a life that may not even be as perfect as you think it is. Work on creating progress in your life and on marking milestones from where you were to where you are now and to where you strive to go, but recognize bumps in the road, falling down, not getting everything right all the time, are part of the journey.
5. Life Being Fair
We've all heard the phrase: "life isn't fair," but how many people actually understand that. If life were fair, we'd get everything we wanted, and nothing would go wrong for anyone or ourselves, but life isn't fair. Life doesn't care who you are, or what you've done or haven't done, it's a moving breathing thing that doles out the punches when you least expect them. Stop expecting life to treat you better than other people just because you exist and you think it should. Stop believing in the myth that you are the only one who has ever had problems or that they're so much worse that everyone elses. Stop saying how unfair it all is to you and work on overcoming those obstacles in your path and things that aren't even obstacles that you've made so because you think things should be easy or simple for you. Do the work. Figure it out. Find other solutions to your problems. Reach out if you really need help. Stop whining and crying about everything that doesn't work out and 2018 will seem less unfair, and more like sets of problems you can work to solve because you can and aren't afraid to try.
6. Disconnection
Technology has all but taken over this world in it's attempt to connect us, but it has a very dark side where some people have actually become more disconnected than ever with those who are right in front of us. Unplug. Take a deep breath. Step back. Smell the Roses. Start actually turning off your electronics and putting back the care, love, your undivided attention, and effort into your friends and family. If you are two feet away from someone and you haven't looked up from your phone in an hour to actually talk to them, that's unfortunate because you and they are missing out. Don't let technology continue to rob you from the reality that there are those that love you and want to spend time with you, not you on your phone or computer.
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