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known him a few months through friends. we just started seeing each other, he's been very polite. we have not fought no one has complained, so, I don't know where this came from.

i dont really do romantic things or expect it, bc it feels weird to me, and i certainly never asked for it. I dont see why he went out of his way to be rude. what if i DID want a flower. or wanted to do something nice for him... then hed be mocking me. now i feel weird with the prospect of us getting closer. im already really uncomfortable with intimacy. now i feel like if i make an effort he's just gong to make fun of me.

Why would he do that. it i did not feel like a joke. it felt like he was making a point sarcastically. he's the one who wanted to date. supposedly he was interested since last year.. i dont get it. if he's not ready why bother me. and anyhow iim uncomfortable with intimacy so now if he is too, i think i should just move on.

So I grew up with this guy and he teased me though out our childhood-he was something like a bully to me. So last yr I stuck up for myself and confronted him and he bounced back tremendously. I dont know why/how but I went from not seeing him as attractive to wow he's attractive and for the past couple of months I've developed a crush on him and have been playing it cool. He wasn't interested in me (like friendship or relationship wise), I added him on social media and he lied to my face and says he added me back (lies), he didn't say hi to me in public... That behaivor was all up until two months ago when he made a move (touched my hand and didn't move his fingers away from mine). I kept my hand next to his but removed it after a bit because he has a girlfriend and a female best friend. So of course I closed that chapter of my life with him (tried not to sit by him at choir practice nor stare at him and other things) but I quickly realized I couldnt fight it anymore. So three weeks ago I locked eyes with him and he beated around the bush b4 he locked eyes with me too. Ever since then I've caught him staring and locking eyes with me and flirting as well as making advances twoards me. Should I go for it and develop something with him? As in develop the feelings I have for him. If I make him fall for me he could end it with his girlfriend for me.

yesterday night me and my boyfriend were talking over the phone and we were discussing about his job interview next week. He wants a second job because his current job doesn't pay well and he wants to make enough money so he can move out to his own place. I understand that and if he gets the job, I will be happy for him. But then he mentioned that he doesn't mind taking 4 to 5 shifts a night. And then I got this idea in my head that "he won't have enough time for me" since he's working in the daytime and then would work at night. We see each other every 2 days and we talk everyday so I think Im scared that we won't be as close any more and so I took it out on him. And then he got extremely furious at the end. This was our conversation:
HIM: why are u thinking like this? I will make time for u. if a guy really likes someone he will make time so i will make time. i know myself
ME: i dont think u will. i just have a feeling. my friend and her boyfriend are on and off because of this
HIM: dont compare our relationship. we are all different. you are thinking about urself. u just want all the attention and its not fair. i need to think of my career first.
ME: ok... i think we need space for a week. we been talking everyday
HIM: *getting furious* WHAT THE F? why a week? are u interested in someone else? i thought we are seeing each other on Monday. i have a feeling u dnt want to be with me. if u dont just tell me and im out of your life. dont play games with me. im pissed. i will call later. bye.
Then he hanged up and then called me again
HIM: what do u want from me? do u want to break up?
ME: i dont know what i want.
HIM: *still furious but i can tell he was going to cry* why do u do this to me all the time? i dont know what u want. if u dont see me on Monday i will take it that ur not interested anymore and thats it. i will leave.
ME: yea i dont know..
HIM: look just see me on Monday. i will call u Sunday night. i will give u space tomoro. goodnight.
ME: ok ill see u on Monday. goodnite