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Whenever I was dealing with problems with women my friends usually told me to act stoic, tough or I like I don’t give a shit (usually good advice). Confront the problem directly/quickly and then back off and do my thing. This often includes just not contacting her if she’s being unfair.

However a few have chastised me if I was acting douchy in my youth. I did have one friend chew me out in one of the rare moments I was in the wrong and he witnessed it. Again it was a very rare incident.

Anyway guys really don’t like to hear other guys bitch too much (in person) about women. Although it’s often healthy and necessary but the act itself can come off as feminine if it happens too much.

However I’ve noticed that women usually have a more tainted lens and assume the worst about the other guy when they give advice to women. Some of this is just natural given the loyalty/protectiveness they have for other women. This is also at times justified. Sometimes the other guy really is being a dbag and the girl shouldn’t tolerate it.

However women sometimes give tainted advice as way to get revenge on a 3rd party guy because they themselves were hurt by an unrelated incident at some point. As if seeing a friend being bitchy to another guy it’s somehow “evening the score” by proxy. Or they might even do this out of secret jealousy. They would feel better if their friend was single/lonely since they are unhappy with their own predicament. They would encourage a break up.

Thoughts?

In my scenario, my ex broke up with me after 3 years and is asking me where do we stand. We reached out on a call after one week of no contact. I'm too angry to decide because she went on tinder few days after and kissed a guy which she says she feels uncomfortable. I was disgusted and she says I gave her reason to do that because of emotional abuse or disregard her emotions in the relationship which I'm confident I listen fully and act like a psychologist. Every person recommends I should be a pyschologist of my good advice and listening. However my ex thinks I'm the worst for advice and I should be upset and react exaggeratively about a situation with her whereas I'm calm and optimistic person. I am angry at of our infrequent sex so sometimes I get a bit moody to be honest which wouldn't anybody if constantly rejected? Anyway I am considering coming back and fix everything but she is making everything my fault. But once we talked, she gave me 30+ reasons not a few why I'm horrible person and why she's hurt. And when I try communicate she shuts me off "no excuse". She also considers I need to therapy for my past behaviour. I honestly haven't done anything bad, I'm just like every couple with few arguments and maybe listen 90%. She throws keywords like gaslighting etc. Do you think I'm bad person or she is or are we both messed up?