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If I as a man, asked you to (hang out,) would you assume I'm attracted to you and shut me down? Or would you spend time with me to see if I have other motives?

i mean... do I look like the type of guy that only speaks to a woman if I find her attractive?😯😳

(that's judging a book by its cover)😔

yesterday i was as chillin in a parking Structure on my motorcycle and some random white dude approached me trying to communicate about how cool he thought my motorcycle looked. But the way he approached me was in such a fearful manner, he looked like he was about to walk into a cage with hungry lion or somthin... I was like wtf?😦😧😓 I said to myself, ("wonder why is he do cautious?") I could see if I was holding a weapon or dressed like a thug but I was wearing gym clothes lol😌😅😂

Okay I have to get this out, and this is a place I found.

I'm 18, living in the UK, a heterosexual guy who has never dated or been close to doing so.

To give you an idea, I am not attractive physically, by my own analysis. I have little hair and an oversized forehead, creating that classic "probable murderer" look, and no amount of gym time has been able to earn me an acceptable body.

It's not much better personality wise. My interpersonal skills have always been so impaired that, for most of my life, I was believed to be autistic. I am afraid to approach women, and unable to see in the moment any signs indicating that they may be interested. I believe that I am completely repellent as a person, and I'm pretty sure other people do too.

I do not consider myself to have any real friends, much less ones who can introduce me to others. My interests are obscure to the point that I can't meet anyone through them either.

Recent developments have made it worse. After being blown off repeatedly and considering the problem may be me as a person, I began to read up on basic stuff about how to properly respect women. I managed to realise that I wasn't entitled to anyone, but then I thought: if I'm not entitled to anyone, what chance do I have? After all, I'm utterly abhorrent due to some things I'll never be able to change (see above) so without the illusion that I was destined for someone, my confidence in finding someone fell to rock bottom.

I feel I may have developed a sort of depression as a result of, or to compound, this, but I am afraid to go and get help. I'm in so deep that I have begun to resent the happiness of existing couples, a feeling which has been amplified around this time of year. (Another sign that I am just a bad person.)

I'm hoping I'll get out of this either some words of support or advice; or a confirmation that I will be alone all my life.

Let me explain, say a man is unattractive or average and has a steady job but the norms of society deem him unattractive placing that and average in the same category as ugly for men and women can get away with being all three and laugh at him and call him a loser while he gets name called and perhaps f'ed with from good looking alpha males. It seems as the longer society goes like this the more the Jordan belfort approach is more acceptable for unattractive and average men to even be able to date a woman. Or in other cases if the guy is unattractive or average he has to wait till the woman goes through the phases of high school, hot guy, mistake, single mother, another hot guy, mistake, 24 year old single mother of two, and so on till lessons learned, 40 year old single mother with two or three kids. Should unattractive men wait for single mothers since that's all they can get or just go celibate their entire lives (for some people that needs sex really bad to the point they really need to experience it with no strings attached there's always hookers).

(In before "it's your attitude, you sound bitter, no woman wants a whiny little bitch who's mad he's ugly and can't get a girlfriend or he got friendzoned for being ugly", "you need confidence, it's not about what you look like" and "change your wardrobe, go to the gym and get big, get some status, and make yourself look attractive" (even though you can't change your looks)