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Just recently I’ve felt like me and my boyfriend haven’t connected. We haven’t had sex or kissed in the past two and a half weeks because I was sore and my lip flared up from picking at it sorry if too much info. Just recently he texted me asking me how he was supposed to put pto in to not come into work because he slept late. The way he asked me he seemed demanding about getting the answer as if I needed to work on his time. Like it’s not my fault you were late to work. So he called me later that day and FaceTime me and I didn’t say much on the phone. About a hour after us being on the phone it talking be hung up without saying anything and I immediately texted back asking why he hung up he could’ve at least said okay I’m hanging up. He didn’t answer me from 11 pm that night to 3 pm the next day. I was for sure he left me on read and wasn’t sure how he could be asleep that long he was just posting on Facebook earlier that morning. So I texted him back and called and he finally answered. Turned out he was still sleep around 3 pm. So I hung up and said I would talk to him later. I was fed up because I hadn’t heard from him. I blocked him to give him his own medicine because he said if he texts someone and they don’t respond after a while he blocks them. So I did just that and to let him know that I was upset. When we argued he said he was sick of this. So basically I eventually unblocked him after a day or two and he seemed to not wanna get with me. He said find god and come back other than that stay gone. He calls me ma and told me yesterday that he misses me and that he still has love for me and loves me. He texts me everyday. He told me I’m hot. But when I asked if we could get back together he said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now. What is this supposed to mean? What should I do? I don’t have time to be led on either. You either want to get back or not. Should. I talk to him about it one more time before I emotionally detach?

my boyfriend and I have argued in the past over him not defending me against his family being racist, rude, or body shaming me. They’ve made racist jokes, made fun of my body, always say my name wrong, talk about other girls or his ex, and address me by talking to him (hey, Bf’s name, did OP eat before coming?”) or something along those lines as I stand RIGHT by him. I’ve made every effort with them to talk and be nice.
last time he didn’t defend me against a racist joke, he apologized and comforted me after like always but I told him that was the last chance he had.
Today his friend who I’m friends with but not nearly as closely as he is ‘jokingly’ called me flat and said I’m built like a board. He is usually pretty sarcastic and it’s hard to tell when he means it or not. After a few seconds where I didn’t laugh he said “sorry just kidding!!” And I didn’t say anything cause I’m at his/my bf’s house with my boyfriend and I didn’t know if I’d be overreacting. I’ve had many bad experiences of being bodyshamed and made fun of for being skinny and it’s really gotten to me over time. I expected my boyfriend to at least step in and say something guiding— not even outright confrontational— but something like “too far man”, But he didn’t. He just made a sad face at me and went back to scrolling on his phone.
I can’t tell if he just didn’t want to make things awkward for me, if he thought it wasn’t a big deal, or if he once again decided his security was more important than defending me. he definitely heard it happen.
so my questions are-
1: would you have said something if you were him? (I know I should’ve, I was just uncomfortable with it being his+bf’s apartment that I am staying at for tonight).
2: is this a big enough breach to warrant me upholding my “that was your last chance”?
im planning on talking about it with my boyfriend tomorrow no matter what but he fell asleep for now and his roommate is still up so I can’t talk about It with him at this time