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Women on here of all ages are CONSTANTLY complaining about men's bad behavior, how they mistreat them, how they lie and abuse them. But it also seems that they STAY in these relationships far too long and then want to know "why is he treating me like this"?

Well here's an idea. Why don't women lay out the "rules of engagement" from the start and make it absolutely clear there will be NO SECOND CHANCES ! No amount of "I love you's", or gifts, or apologies, will grant you a reprieve.

Say this to your potential boyfriend (and I say this because it's true for ALL women... right: :)

I am totally honest. I will never lie to you. Lie to me once, you're gone forever.
I will never hit you, throw things at you, or embarrass you in public. Do any of those once, you're gone forever.
I am loyal and will NEVER cheat on you. That means I'll have sex only with you, passionately kiss only you, share "myself" only with you. Anything else is "cheating". I expect the same from you, which doesn't mean you can't have friends, as long as that's all they are. So... cheat on me once, you're gone forever.

Establish this from the start. If he agrees, trust him until you have reason not to and confront him only if you have reason to. Look him in the eyes and ask " are you breaking any of my rules" ? Watch his face. You'll know.

So if he HAS broken one of the rules, kick him out. No bullshit, no asking "why", no tolerance. He had his chance, and blew it. And then... STOP COMPLAINING !