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This last week I took off 3 days of work & we went to visit his best friend and his wife. I had made plans for a happy hour with a friend last night & Wed afternoon he told me I needed to go to a client dinner with him so I cancelled my original plans. We are hosting the duo we just went & visited this last weekend since they are coming into town for a wedding. Last night on our way to dinner he lets me know he’s going to a guys night tonight & so I reach out to one of my girlfriends to hang out. Today he asks if there’s any way I can leave work early & I do. I let him know I can & that i’m running 2 quick errands first. I get home & he’s playing xbox and asks me to blow him. I the comment & start doing chores. After I have been home for 45 minutes he comes to me and starts undoing his pants &gesturing to give him a bj, I just stare. He mouths how I never want to “take care of him” and walks off. I tell him the reason I am not is because he is going to be gone all night with the boys &when I come home he’s playing games with the boys for 45 min so I don’t feel obligated to serve him when he’s not considering the time with me. He states he isn’t going to fight with me and I told him I’m not fighting just telling you why I’m not giving you a bj. He goes to lay in bed &I go lay beside him while he scrolls social for about 20 min before turning away from me &acting like he is going to sleep. I get up to feed the dogs and go to sit by the pool and within 5 min he is leaving the house, not saying a word to me, then texts noticeably annoyed that he will be gone until boys night starts. This is somewhat a common occurrence when he doesn’t get his way, he’ll ignore me even if I try to talk to him he won’t respond. I just don’t see why he doesn’t get we have &are about to spend a lot of time with his people &I’d like to think he’d take advantage of our alone time, not use it to continue to spend with others and only give me attention if intimacy is involved. General thoughts?

How does a path chosen or a lifestyle get recreated/replicated?

For example, let’s say a fierce athlete claims fame, along with the rewards of all his efforts being paid off.

He motivates and gives tips to a learner of his. (He is their mentor).

Can that student achieve what he has from all his advice and motivation? Or can it only be done by facing the same challenges/hardships he has faced etc. ?

I wonder if the words of an influential and powerful person can recreate the same success in a student of the influencer, or if it is only possible to replicate the steps of greatness, having only or additionally, undergone *the same level of treatment in life,* as the mentor/influencer (had).

- What do you think? Are the words enough? The advice?

Or do they (the student (s)) have to build a similar mindset from similar experiences?

I trained for a different type of job and got it. He was in a higher position, and after a few months, he gave me an ultimatum: either work in his office as a personal secretary or submit my resignation. When I left, this hideous-looking baldy—who eats alone on Valentine’s Day—gathered a group of similarly unattractive Indian men, and they laughed at me.

He also claimed I wasn’t capable of doing my job, even though he barely shows up at the office himself. The job of his personal secretary involved clerical work and sitting in his office all day. I trained for a position that earned me my own office, because I’m skilled and knowledgeable—I’m not someone who should be doing clerical work. My job profile was entirely different from what he tried to force me into.

I filed a complaint, but they ruled in his favor without giving any reason. In fact, he was even appointed as one of the members of the investigation team.

So when will American media stop portraying Indian males (I refuse to call them men or even boys) as innocent, funny nerds? I consider this behavior not only toxic, but dangerous.

Stop showing sexist Indian criminals as harmless, funny nerds. That’s like calling a nuclear bomb a firework. I can expose them little by little—because I see their real attitude.