Should I break up with my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

For context, right now I'm facing a family crisis, my grandma had a stroke and is in a very bad condition

I live with my dad and my motherly grandparents, my grandma was the one who did all the housework, so now we're learning on how to survive on our own

The thing is... Ever since this happened, I feel like my boyfriend has been acting distant. He said he doesn't feel comfortable going to my house because of the heavy mood around the house, that it stresses him out, and secondly because my house is "dirty and messy"

He also said before he went to his house, that he needs to take care of himself too because otherwise it would be worse

Now my dad and grandpa started to notice my boyfriend's absence, because they constanly asks me if he's going to come and I don't know how to respond.

And when I ask him if he would like to come (at least to keep me company, he says "I'll think about it")

I feel so alone right now, despite being in a relationship...

[SteveSmith1985]

I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a tough time with your grandmother's stroke.

I think that what your boyfriend showed you, is that he is not somebody you can count on for emotional support.

You are in a place where you need support from someone you're in a relationship, and he is being very clear, that he will not even pretend to provide that for you.

That is inexcusable behavior in y opinion. For anybody in any relationship. It's just not how anyone is treated in a good relationship. He should care that you are hurting. He should care that you feel alone. He should want to do everything he can to help you feel supported and cared for; during a time like this.

It's a lack of emotional support that I think warrants breaking up with someone.

No decent guy would do this to his girlfriend. He left you out to dry when you're struggling. What kind of partner does that? Not one that is worth keeping.

This is a showing of this guy's true colors. This is the kind of guy he is, when push comes to shove. He is not willing to feel even a little discomfort... while you're going through a crisis. He cannot be there enough to tolerate the (very understandable) "heavy mood" in your house? That's pathetic.

I think that you deserve better than a boyfriend who would act this way, when things get tough. Don't you think so too?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry for your family's challenges and your grandma's poor health. I hope things improve for her and all of you.

Your boyfriend sounds selfish and unsupportive. If I were you I would just ignore him for a while. If he doesn't come around and start being supportive, and ideally apologize, I do think you should dump him. You deserve better, especially right now.

[Anonymous]

He sounds supportive.