i’m 22 and my boyfriend is 48. i love him and i don’t want to live without him. he has anger issues and struggles with alcoholism. i have autism and i also struggle with addiction. i am very empathetic and understanding towards his issues but he is not understanding towards my disability. i also have severe depression. i’ve been trying my best. he gets mad because i’m not as hard working as him. he wakes up at 5:30 and i wake up at 9 am and he says that i sleep all day because i don’t wake up as early as him. i’m lucky that i even get out of bed at the time that i do. he has a stressful job and works a lot. i know he’s exhausted and stressed but he is so resentful towards me because i don’t have a stressful job like he does. i’m lucky to work a couple days a week at my family’s business. i want to get another job and my ged but i am struggling. he doesn’t think that my struggles are valid because his struggles are “worse” why compare who has it harder? he doesn’t understand what it’s like to have autism. everything is so f*cking hard for me. i’m lucky to still be alive. i don’t know if he truly loves and accepts me. i understand that we are at different places in life because of our age gap. i’m watching him slowly k*ll himself and i’m here for him but he can’t be here for me. he gets so mad and says that i’m a deadbeat. i really am trying. i wish he could understand and love me unconditionally. i thought he loved me, he tells me how much he does all the time. he is always praising me too and telling me how lucky he is to have me, but why is he so cruel sometimes? i want to be treated with respect, understanding and patience that’s all. if i leave him i will have no one. i have no friends. i have a hard time working and being around people. i’ll be stuck at my moms house which is basically a hoarders house. i can’t go back there. i want to end it all. i want to evaporate and no longer feel any pain. i don’t know what to do
Should I break up with my boyfriend?
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he also told me to get out and started packing my stuff, all because i wanted to communicate (in a calm manner) and asked him to treat me better. i feel like it’s all been a lie. if you really loved someone would you treat them this way?
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You are important and you have value. It is okay if some days are harder than others, just take one day at a time. Is there anywhere you’re able to go or anyone that you can talk to? There are shelters if you don’t have anyone. You need to get out of that man’s home, you deserve to be treated so much better than you are and I wish I could help you
Girl! Find someone else who will treat you better. You can start over again, in might be difficult but you can do it. l had a similar situation, he kicked me out at 2am in the morning like a dog. Now four months later l'm so happy, free and living my best life. l hope things are better for you now.
Oh baby girl. Tell someone you can trust. You have to get out of that relationship. It's toxic and it is doing more damage to you then you can see. I'm sorry I was I could hold you and tell you it's going to be okay.
you are sweet. thank you