Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and he have said the n word once infront of me and apologized and said that he would never say it again ( i am black).
and one time he was talking to one of his friends on the phone and his friend was saying the n word with the hard r talking about hos parents would never invete n (word) to the wedding etc, i called him out on that and he said his black feiends lets him say that and that ge can't do anything about it. What do you guys think should i break up with him.
and how do I bring it up again?
i am thinking in the future we are gonna have mixed kids and i want him to understand that he shouldn’t hang out with him.
by the way my boyfriend is white/middle eastern.
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What's wrong with the n** word? Why do you make a big deal out of it?
I mean if he's saying it just like that, it doesn't matter but if it's meant to humiliate you because you're black than dump him...
I never give importance about the color of the person because to me they are all humans no matter what color they are...
If he truly loves you and this word is bothering you than he must stop it, idc what my friends says cause if i had a girlfriend, my girlfriend comes 1st cause she might become my future housewife 😌
Well i dont want his friend to feel comfortable saying it around him, because if someone said something offensive about my boyfriend religion, country or ethnicity i would speak up because it is not okay. And if they didn’t stop saying that in front of me then I would distance my self because i would want that kind of people around me or my future kids.
Well yes if it's bothering you than he must speaks with his friend about it so he doesn't mention it anymore, if i had girlfriend and someone direspects her, it means they are disrespecting me...
Hmm. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt? But Tell him that just because he says that around his friends (assuming they really did accept), doesn't mean that's fine for him to say that in your presence.
I reread the second paragraph and I'm a bit confused. If his friend said it and is that friend black, then there isn't a ton you can do here.
No his friend is white, I have told him he shouldn’t be comfortable saying that around him i feel like he has a black girlfriend and he should know that it is not appropriate for his friend to say that around him either