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So here is the situation. you're angry at your boyfriend, you live together. The home is owned by him, his property, you pay nothing for it. the bed is owned by him, you did not pay for it. You have decided to kick him out of his own bed.. Is this acceptable?

I think it is not. In my own situation i have been married 5 years, and have lived with my wife for 7. She has never been in a situation where she felt the need to kick me out of my own bed, or even out of my own home the entire time we were together. I asked her this same question and her response is that it is petty, she also felt it would be bad for the both of us seeing as i am the one that works and need my sleep more than she does. That if i made her angry enough to not want to sleep next to me, she would be the one on the couch and not me. She has never done this by the way, i just dont make her that angry. Id rather work things out personally and i have always believed that we should never go to bed angry.

I had an ex that tried to kick me out of my own bed, she had been living with me for about 6 months.. And she ended up that night kicked out of my home in the middle of winter and told she could come back when she grew up. Suffice it to say i broke up with her the next day.

Assuming that you don't necessarily have to give him the best solutions to overcome those issues but just listen to him and by talking to you, he feels better. Not necessarily talking about depression but its not off the table.

I only ask because there is a feminist narrative that suggests men should see a therapist about his problems in life and not burden their partners with their issues because "Women are not rehabilitation centres for men", as they say.

I completely disagree with that because firstly, not all problems need to be addressed with the best solution, sometimes just telling them to someone can alleviate the burden. Secondly, it is a great opportunity to bond with one another since you are sharing vulnerabilities and your partner now knows why you behave in ways that you do. Thirdly, that's exactly what therapists do. They just listen and in the end ask us questions that make us come with the solution ourselves. Sure they are professionally trained and better equiped to deal with such stuff but that doesn't compare to raw love. And lastly, talking to a complete stranger is nowhere near as satisfying as talking to your caring girlfriend. But then, I am an introvert, so, ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.