I will start by saying that a man can truly fall in love with a single woman but:
a) The woman is looking for the perfect magical man from some fantasy built up in her mind and makes excuses not to commit when she realizes a potential new man has flaws.
b) A relationship is about giving and prioritizing your lover. A woman with a child creates an imbalance in the relationship where a man feels neglected and unloved.
A woman needs to recognize that having a child is NO EXCUSE to neglect a potential partner or not make him/her a priority.
Does this make it difficult? YES IT DOES. It makes it harder on the single woman. But the deeper question is whether it is worth it. Do you really want to grow old and be alone for the rest of your life? Because a woman's looks will not always be the same. The chances of a quality man when your kid grows up and is more independent diminishes.
Too many women are having children outside of marriage. They are having sex with boyfriends and having children thinking that their sexual market place value in the dating world will be the same after they have a kid. Rather than having an abortion they have this belief in the magic pussy theory. A concept where a man is "pussy whipped" into love. They believe they can have a child and as long as they look sexy and put out...they can lock down a man.
The reality is more complicated than that. Women often times view quality men as sexual objects that can be manipulated. What they dont understand is that a real quality man has needs in a relationship just like anyone else. They need love and validation. Quality time. They need to feel prioritized just like any loving relationship.
I recently did a question poll on GAG and asked if single women were "damage goods" and should not be considered in dating. I was shocked to find 56% of men believed that single women weren't worth the time.
Women should ask themselves why this is the case.
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