*Greets like never before and in jocund tune appreciates* "I loved the swag with which you logged in to your Facebook account last night. The wit you chatted with me was as if I was interacting with a different person. Be that 24/7, my dear colleague lady."
*Tries to roll her eyes, but sudden currents of shocks running in her body stops her. An indifferent voice questioned her own self.* "So, we chatted last night? Hmmm!"
*Attempting to comfort her* "Are you ok?"
*In a low voice, she shares her biggest secret* "My boyfriend has my social media passwords."
*Gets benumb. Has no words to console.* "OMG! But... Why, lady?"
"To strengthen our bonding."
*Curiously asks* "Is that the reason you are looking depressed?"
*Refutes in more depressing voice* "No. I also have his passwords. I got them last night. To my surprise, his passwords are his Ex name. O' Gosh! I feel as if I am stabbed in my back."
*Shouts in shock* "Lady, you both need to reconsider your decisions. Do not you both think that is against the relationship grace?"
These days' getting into a relationship is not expensive. It does not cost some gifts, lots of drinks, and eight dinners. That prolonged and traditional technique ended a decade ago. Just offer a drink to the girl you like at club, and that is it. If two birds find compatibility in their nature over a drink, they rush to change their relationship status on their social media in no time.
They post pics pronouncing themselves "Baes" with speed faster than that of light. Is that correct? Is being quick, appreciable? Well... you must be rolling eyes here. However, it is a fact that the truth is bitter. No doubt, with time, everything has advanced. But, "slowly and gradually win the race" is the key to the best relationship for many ages.
Mastering Do's and Don'ts to Sit In the Boss Chair of the Chess of Love
You must have started to get a "typical aunt" and a "typical uncle" like feels from us at this point in the article. No offense. But, let's tell you a few compulsory Dos and Don'ts:
#1-No Details Initially
Never share A to Z details about yourself in just a few meetings. "Who Am I?"... Rather than telling your bae that allows him or her to struggle. To know you, this strengthens the bonding.
#2-Timing Matters
Do you know why a bunny lost the marathon? Do you know why a turtle won a lengthy race? Since our childhood, the first lesson we are taught is that bunny pained for impatience, blind trust (on himself), and ignorance of moves of the fellow runner. The turtle was rewarded for not leaving his turtle-ness. Hence, to ace the marathon of love, you must take your time. You also must let your "bae" have his.
#3-No to "Just On Weekend"
Meet more Often. It is vital to observe the nature of your new "bae." (Now, that is so non-typical uncle or aunt of us... *pieces of laughter*)
#4-Zero Points For Gifts
Appreciate gifts but never get influenced by them as you are not going to spend lives, make love, have babies, and strive for their future with them. Only your love's personality matters.
#5-Friend Request Timing
Add your "Bae" on social media as soon as you can.
#6- The TL Examination
Explore your "Bae" critically from your account. Like, what he likes, tweets, shares, and all that. It is not about spying but attempting to understand his nature.
#7-Test Your Bae on Every Kind Of Meal
Never stick to the "only dinner" rule. Have breakfasts, or lunch, or Hi-tea data also. There is a terrible myth connected with dinner. That is:
Dinner = night = dropping me or taking to the home = OMG that is "lovemaking" alert = Is that just what my new Bae wants?
#8-Sharing Passwords Game and the Relationship
Here, we are confused. We cannot decide what the right word for this game is. "Famous" or "Notorious"... Well... Let's let it be... The notable passwords sharing game is considered to strengthen bonding in no time, which is another relationship myth.
The Journey of Two Toothbrushes in the Box to Password and Reactions
As soon as one of you move to your love's house and place your toothbrush in his or her toothbrush box, you need to be ready 24/7. The possibility is 99.99% that some morning your love is going break in the washroom and ask you, while you are brushing your teeth:
"Hi, Love. Your Passwords?"
Then, what is going to be your reaction? Let us guess
⦁ An I-am-surprised-stare⦁ An I-am-surprised-stare
⦁ A confusion in the mind that whether to split the toothpaste in the washroom sink or at his face
⦁ A confusion in the mind that whether to split the toothpaste in the washroom sink or at his face⦁ Hit Him in the head with brush
No matter how much you deny, if you have not preplanned for such a scenario, you will fail the relationship. Whether it is yes or no from your side, you must be in the state to reply instantly. For that, you must do your homework. You must be prepared.
Common Just As Relationships - The New "Mandatory"
According to a new study conducted by the Kaspersky Lab, almost 87 percent of "bars" have shared PINs, passwords, and even exchanged fingerprints to access each other's devices. Sharing passwords has been made mandatory, like breath. But the question is: Is that normal or abnormal?
You share every like and dislike, up and down, turn-ons and turn-offs, passions, aspirations, goals, and funny and scary secrets. So, why we do 'if and but' when it comes to social media? Is that fine? Should you feel guilty if you say no? Social media was not there in the time of our mothers and grandmothers. The pattern to strengthen the relationship and bonding was different. Our age is a digital age.
The Valid Timing
Sharing passwords sounds super sexy, but it is scary also. What matters is timing. That is:Sharing passwords sounds super sexy, but it is scary also. What matters is timing. That is:
⦁ If you are in prolonged relation and understand each other as bodies one soul, you can share passwords. Anytime.
⦁ If your "bae" doubts and you are under immense, there is no need to satisfy the ego of anyone. That "bae" is not your "love." There is no need to tell passwords. The only need is to kick such "bae" out of your life.
The Partial and Not Harmful Sharing
Saying no for each password out there is not appreciable. You must share the Netflix account. In this way, you will know the tastes of each other by exploring the search history. Sharing passwords of such applications is harmless. That's what we call "partial sharing."
The Risks of Sharing Passwords in a Relationship
Everything has side effects. This goes for passwords sharing in the relationship also. The side effect, which can also be called risk, in this case, is Revenge. You enjoy the candy called "trust" as long as you both in our relationship. If God forbid breakup happens, your Ex-love can use it to commit mischief, like:
⦁ Identity theft
⦁ Make unwarranted purchases
⦁ Build up a large amount of debt
⦁ Catch a virus on devices
⦁ Commit cybercrime
⦁ Leak private moments
⦁ Send your resignation to your boss
⦁ Be professional with your business clients by abusing
According to the study done by Kaspersky Lab, almost 38 percent of Ex-lovers have had done this.
Solution and Tip
In the case of a breakup, change your passwords immediately, even before crying. Do not think even for a second.
Final Thoughts
If you have made your mind for sharing your passwords, we will not say 'if and but.' However, you and your love must know the "healthy boundaries" for each. For peace and for many anniversaries together. Healthy boundaries are the key to any successful love life. Sit together and define your "Healthy Boundaries."
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