Search Results: am i unapproachable

I was having a discussion with my friend at work today. Red is 32 and has lots of dating experience, however, she has been with the same guy for the past 5 years.
My other friend is 26 and has two kids and has only been with one guy her whole life.
I'm sorta flip flopping between my ex and my current interest but I'm thinking about cutting them both out.
We got into sharing advice with each other about how to make guys fall for you.
I talked about playing the game and pulling away and making him miss you. But don't pull away too far or he'll think you're no longer interested.
Red goes, "they always come back. And if they don't, don't waste your time with a guy like that."

Her number one advice is to "train" your man how to treat you and be a confident bitch to keep him in line. She also said that when you're just flirting, act bitchy and aloof. She said guys love this. Obviously it has worked for her in the past.
In my personal experience, yes, guys mostly do make a full circle. I think acting bitchy versus unapproachable is different. It's a very fine line. Girls, what has been your experience?

It doesn't matter if I'm with friends or alone. If I'm laughing the night away, chatting heck I could even be bawling and no one would pay two cents less it's seems. What about me as from what I have been told is making me INTIMIDATING AND UNAPPROACHABLE? What exactly does this mean from a males perspective and how can I remedy this?