What makes a guy unapproachable or intimidating?

Question

ok so the other day at college I had a girl tell me that I am good looking but I come off as unapproachable. so my question is what would make a guy unapproachable or intimidating to u, not if u know him just a guy u see around campus.

Megalizmo21 · Accepted Answer

I find guys unapproachable if they don't smile, often surround themselves with the same group, don't acknowledge outsiders, or are crude or secluded.

It can have a lot to do with body language, facial expression, and how energetic you are. A guy that's stoic seems much more unapproachable than a guy smiling.

Another thing is making eye contact with people, even from a distance. A short connection like that shows you want to interact and are friendly/approachable. Greeting a wide range of people can help you to appear friendly as well, as you're interested in acknowledging people.

If you're in a conversation, ask questions and show you're listening, and people will want to continue the interaction.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have been in this situation for the last couple years. This guy at work- the first time I saw him, I was instantly smitten with him. I told myself to stay away from him because he was out of my league. Just a little. I assumed he would be full of himself, arrogant, because he is so hot and I thought women must throw themselves at him all the time. He is a very masculine man, his former job was a welder and I was intimidated by him but once I got to know him, he was such a sweetheart that I knew my first impression was way off. So now we are friends and I couldn't be happier.

AdrianaMT · Accepted Answer

If you are always surrounded by your friends, if you are too good looking, or just your face (if you seem relaxed and friendly or mysterious and intimidating).
My tips would be to move around (when a man has his territory well defined is hard for a person to feel confortable walking over to him), smile, and if you want to flirt with a girl just go over and talk to her. If I find a guy intimidating I will not go over and talk to him, I will wait for him to approach me then next time I see him I will feel more confortable saying hi and talking.

Notorisch_Arschloch · Accepted Answer

I find that an expression that does not hide the fact that I am a moment from extreme violence in conjunction with an attitude that, when you speak to me, makes you realize I could beat a puppy to death with an infant and sleep like a kitten that night, really does the trick. Being muscular, heavily tattooed, having Viking style hair and beard, and open carrying a loaded sidearm helps as well.

But some people are idiots and still talk to me for some god awful fuckin reason.

Anonymous · Answer

Body language may have a play in it but maybe she said that because she doesn't see you talking to a lot of girls or if you have a really tight knit group of friends she may feel as if though its pointless to try and approach you. Or she might also have asked around about you and people told her you are intimidating because this has happened before to me but when I go up to the guy turns out he's really nice.

tiajoker · Answer

I would think she says that if you don't talk to a lot of other people. Isolated men seem like they would get annoyed if a girl tries talking to them.

hannahbanana211 · Answer

If a guy is frowning or has his jaw locked and looks down a lot, those are signs he may be unapproachable to me

xCutesyLolitax · Answer

If he is cute but he doesn't smile and always seems like he is bored

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know about intimidating.. I guess that depends on the person... as far as unapproachable... you may look unfriendly, angry, soemone who doesn't like chit chat, easily bored...

lolitaa__ · Answer

if his facial expression is downcast, the girl might think he's not interested

fueledbythc · Answer

I've had girls tell me I look angry, I need to smile, and the worst was from a stripper, she asked me why I'm so serious.

Anonymous · Answer

If he's too busy, doesn't make eye contact, super smart, super talented, super hot, mean looking, introverted, doesn't talk.

ButtHurt · Answer

Unapproachable - ugly/fat  Intimidating - nothing.

Anonymous · Answer

If he seems unfriendly. Never smiles and appears too serious

Grubhub · Answer

I think darker skin and size. White man is a higher social class

fidelity_1231 · Answer

he may have a scowl on his face, or look angry when he's just thinking.. sometimes it has to do with his aura if you know what i mean

Anonymous · Answer

facial expression and if girl is shy then when a guy is cute they are usually unapproachable because they are scared or whatever

Anonymous · Answer

his facial expression, his friends

Anonymous · Answer

His looks, his crowd, etc

Anonymous · Answer

I am in the same boat :(

CorvetteGirl · Answer

Looks tbh

RedOctoberNM · Answer

body language

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