Girls, what makes a guy intimidating?

[AleDeEurope]

Is it just them being hot? Is it being very confident? The way they dress? How they talk? Intelligence?

What makes a guy intimidating?

[ShutUpSelene]

I don't get easily intimadated by guys, or people in general for that matter. Because of that, I know exactly what intimadates me, cause on all the occasions I've been intimadated, the guys were more or less similar.

Basically, I'm intimidated by the TOTAL PACKAGE (in my eyes) type of guys. If looks is the only thing he has going for him, I'm not gonna be intimidated. If confidence is the only thing he has going for him, I'm not gonna be intimidated. If personality is the only thing he has going for him, I'm not gonna be intimidated. Long story short, it has to be these three things all at the same time, combined. If he's a 10 looks-wise, EXACTLY my type + his confidence goes through the roof + a superb, high quality personality = intimidating as hell.

Oh, and I also find myself intimidated by intelligence, if a guy is EXTREMELY smart, intelligent, I'm talking, like, 10 times more intelligent than me. If his brain makes me feel like a dumb goose, I'll naturally be intimidated. But then again, this one doesn't apply to only guys, if I meet a girl who's on that high level of intelligence, I'm gonna be intimidated as well.

It's not too often I find such people though, which is good I reckon, cause I personally prefer being the intimidator rather than the intimidated.😄

[patty_acosta]

It's weird because when I get intimidated by a guy I end up getting attracted to him at the same time. I love it when a guy is confident, smart, open minded and that expresses himself clearly with ease and yet with confidence. The looks are a major turn on to me, if I see a man wearing a black suit with patent leather pointy shoes, white shirt with a nice pair of cuff links, black and white silly tie and hankerchief, geez I fall for that guy even though he may look intimidating. You can't compare those looks with a guy wearing tight jeans, t shirt and a skate board.

So what makes a guy intimidating? His knowledge, his looks, the way he carries himself.

[KitKat93]

Most men are not intimidating.

However, if his intentions are purely sexual and he's trying to move fast, that can be intimidating.

Also, displays of temper that involve yelling, hitting objects, throwing objects, etc.

Finally, I read somewhere that some women are intimidated by the wrong posture. If you square up with a new woman (shoulders lined up to her shoulders and your posture erect), you're coming off very alpha and commanding. Stand slightly to the side of her so one shoulder is facing her more than the other, and boom, not intimidating.

[anyxx]

When a guy doesn't have a sense of humor or is non-playful he's pretty intimidating in my book simply because I won't know how else to interact with him. What are we supposed to talk about if they're so serious? Hell, if a guy won't even crack a smile I'll probably run for the hills. I'm so fucking awkward that I wouldn't be able to handle it.

[theccanyon]

Interesting. I've been told that I'm intimidating by both men and women though I think the ample GaG questions have sated my curiosity on that one.

Same thing goes for men, I believe. On a shallow level, good looks. A bit deeper, confidence. And at it's deepest, a sense that he is his own person and that you have no control over him. In essence, someone you can respect without really knowing who they are. Someone whose approval you'd like to win because it's not freely given.

[ChaosKilledTheDinos]

If it seems like he's judgmental or criticizes things / people a lot then that's intimidating and a turn off. If he's incredibly smart then I might get insecure about sharing my opinions and talking to him. Dressing well is mostly just attractive. If he's really hot then I'll just get tongue tied and probably walk into a chair or something so that's intimidating but I'd also still want to talk to him. I don't know if that helped at all haha.

[karahiri]

life experiences. i met a soldier once who helped build a garden for families in Nigeria. an amazing person... and intimidating a bit.

[karahiri]

Wait. It was Sudan, not Nigeria.

[AleDeEurope]

Why was he intimidating though?

[karahiri]

because he had done something amazing with his life and he's so young! he presented himself with such grace, moreso than i have seen in any guy my age. i felt like i was talking so someone who really understood what it meant to be generous and selfless. he was just a better person at the core. and that always intimidates me... coming across people who are truly kind and genuine.

[AleDeEurope]

Why didn't you put a ring on him? He sounds great haha

[karahiri]

hahahaha oh man... i wish i had :p alas, he was a random stranger, we only started talking because our flights were delayed.

[klittle105]

For me, I prefer to be around guys bc it's less drama and catty. But the only few who do feel intimidating are the ones I am very interested in dating. This is bc they have the power over me to crush me if they wanted to, plus their opinion matters more bc I'm interested in them. It's not intimidated as much as fear of losing power.

[xwingz]

For me it's more about his behavior, if he's cocky and always has a serious face im not even gona look at him, and it's probably the same with you guys right?
and also if he's too shy and awkward to a point ill think he just hates me or something lol.

the perfect guy to approach in my opinion is a friendly shy guy (that kind of makes me trust him a little more).

[fauchelevent]

I love my boyfriend's brother, but I do find him intimidating, and the traits that I find intimidating about him seem to be what intimidates me in other guys. He's quite tall (definitely significantly bigger than me), obviously much stronger than me too, and he keeps his face quite expressionless most of the time so you most of the time don't really know what he's thinking. I dunno, it just puts me on edge.

[Mustachekitteh]

For me intelligence can be. Along with being good at most things.

I can be intimidating for me since I have issues showing my intelligence and I struggle at being good at certain things. Though that's because I have a learning disability. Still it makes me feel like I'm not good enough to be around them.

Now if you mean intimidating as in like being scary. Being really tall, serious face, ripped, and have a deep voice. That would catch some people off guard and not know how to act, lol.

[teawrecks]

The way he holds himself and usually how his voice sounds, honestly. It has nothing to do with attraction. If he has a deep voice and he holds himself stiffly and with authority then I'm just like "well fuck this guy is scary."

[AleDeEurope]

So if a guy acts like that but he's not attractive, or just average, he'd still be intimidating?

[teawrecks]

Absolutely.