A lot of girls are trying to make sense of why it's hard to get a guy. You know that it should be easy, so what's gone wrong? Some things are out of your control but a lot of things aren't. Even though my reasons won't apply to everyone, these are some good things to keep in mind.
Unapproachable
Yea, no.
When it comes to girls, I'm not in a rush to have sex with every pair of legs I see. I mean, I'd like to have sex with nearly every pair of legs I see but if a girl just seems like she's gonna try to get rid of me before I can even say "Hey" I'm not even gonna keep looking at her.
If you give me a look like that, I will be so un-attracted to you it's not even funny. It literally just puts this opinion of you in my head. I know this seems like a weird one but I think girls do this without realizing it and the reason relates to my next point.
Not Flirtatious
Again, I wouldn't consider myself a player. I personally need to see a minimal amount of attraction towards me before I will approach. It can start off as a simple look where all you need to do is offer a smile. Let's say I've already approached you and I start hitting on you. You can't spend the whole time just laughing at my jokes and acting flattered. Eventually I'm just gonna move on if you don't send some signs back to me that you're into it. The same thing goes with distant looks. And not to mention, there are a lot of guys who are too scared of rejection to approach you without some amount of confidence that you like them. Give guys a reason to talk to you.
Girls cost money
Lately, I have been seeing so many girls that I want to approach and just as I'm about to go say something to her, I think about my past relationships and then say to myself "Oh shit, I can't afford a girl right now!" In your defense, I'm pretty broke right now. But still Even just a fuck buddy can cost cash whether it's the gas or the food dates. This isn't me blaming women for anything. You have to spend money to hang out with anyone if you think about it but I brought this one up because if your wondering why a certain guy doesn't talk to you, it might not be you.
Scared me off
I was in the library in my college and saw this girl get up from a computer. She was really attractive. She looked nice and just as I was about to walk up to her she pulls out her phone makes a loud noise and . . . she, I guess you would call it running, she ran across the library in this really frantic and crazy looking way. Librarian tried to calm her down and I overheard her saying that she was late for class. I'm actually still considering talking to her cuz I thought it was really funny but the moral of that story is that people notice you. Either way, I feel like I just can't win.
Bad personality
At the end of the day if we're not compatible, then even a casual fuck is unlikely. I'm talking about if I straight up don't like you.
My first semester in college there was this girl who I thought was attractive. I wanted to fuck her so I was trying to get friendly with her. I ended up with this little group of people who followed me around and in it was this kid who always talked about girls he almost got with as if he was some kind of player. I always messed with him but, I always tried to help him out to. Made him feel like part of the group. I found out that that chick did something mean to that guy. It was really uncalled for and I instantly wanted nothing to do with her. Don't be a bitch because the good guys who will will up with you are a minority of a minority.
Anywho those are just some things that have stopped me in the past. Some of these aren't really the girls fault which is part of what I want women to get from this. You have to be proactive to get what you want.
What do you think? Have you not approached women for similar reasons? Think any of these are crazy? Let me hear some thoughts down there.
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