5 Reasons Why I Don't Befriend Girls

[Anonymous]

1. They Are The Biggest Backstabbers You'll Ever Meet.

Girls will act like they're your friend and then they'll proceed to betray you in some way. They may talk shit about other people with you but when you're not around, they'll talk shit about you behind your back.

2. Girls Will Stir Up Too Much Unnecessary Drama.

They will always stir up girl drama, its so goddamn annoying. Constantly accusing someone of doing something and making the whole clique turn against that girl even though she did nothing wrong. Spread rumors about a particular person, gossip, and all of that crap. That's one big reason why I don't hang out with girls.

3. In a Relationship? They'll Sabotage It.

Kiss your relationship goodbye if you're gonna be friends with girls. They will use anything they can against you and your partner. They'll make personal attacks on you and your boyfriend just for fun or because of jealousy. Who knows.

4. They Will Make Anything a Competition.

Girls are so competitive. They'll always try to be better than you and discourage you from trying harder making you feel like total shit. They'll make you feel like they're better than you no matter what.

5. Have Different Opinions/Views? They'll Turn Against You.

Having a different opinion means losing those friends, especially if they're political views. They will use their mob mentality to make your opinion seem weaker and turn it into a full blown argument. They'll scream at you and belittle you for your different opinion. Whatever you do, just don't share your opinions with them or you'll end up losing those friends.

Now, I only befriend guys because they're so much easier to get along with and relate to. They don't sabotage your relationships, backstab, gossip, start drama, and turn against you. They're a whole lot nicer too.

Well that's it for my MyTake! If I missed any points feel free to add them!

[RainbowFanGirl]

Wow, I'm sorry that having a vagina dictates whether or not you want to be friends with some people.

Some people are just shitty people, man or women. There's no preventing that. You just have to come along the right people then decide.

[ASEXY]

The title should've been "why I'm sexist against my own gender"

[myTake Owner]

There's no such thing as being sexist against your own gender.

[cipher42]

Yes, there is. It's called internalized misogyny, and you've got a pretty bad case of it.

[Vertical807]

@cipher42 *Misandry...

[Nanale]

The word you're searching for is "internalized misogyny"

[Nanale]

@Vertical807 Nope that's women who hate men

[Username678]

It is in our genes unfortunatelly... I still have girlfriends BUT I don't let them in my personal life as much as then I was a teenager.

1. In highschool, my ''best friend'' used to be a pro at smiling at my face, taking trash about others. I was naive enough to believe that I was her friend. But unfortunately the amount of crap she was telling about me was immense

2. When I was 20 and in uni I met a girl during my summer job at a supermarket. Her major was same as mine but she couldn't find a job. I really liked her, she was smart and funny. She also insisted on me and my SO having a dinner with her and her boyfriend (who was also a uni graduate but worked a low paid labour job). I found out only later that she only wanted to find out more about job prospects. As soon as they decided to move abroad it was as if I was invisible.
Lots and lots of eksamples... endless stories... but my most recent one-
3. two months ago I had 1 month to complete a project. It happened so that I had to work together with a girl from class... She used every instance to humiliate me. Once, prof asked us both how to do dilutions. I told him the answers calmly (she had no clue) but I couldn't hear how many ml we should use eksactly because she was intentionally blocking my view.
When I asked her afterward she almost shouted out the same answers I gave just a minute before, right in front of proff, I felt pretty humiliated and didn't talk to her much since. One thing she said- well, out of all of them , she is the best one but stil a bitch. And oh, god if that other bitch comes I swear I'm going to tell her'...
1 month people. A whole month of torture. Sometimes I couldn't feel my brain.

Ok, last eg. I've caught depression before when I was in uni and none of my so called ''girlfriends'' cared. I was absulotely alone. Eventually I pulled myself up and got a highest score possible in an assignment that everyone else did badly in.
Needless to say, the friendliness of the girls in my class was endless after that... including a girl who tortured me for 1 month.

There could be some women who are just THAT compatible but a lot, oh, a lot of them are overly competitive and insecure. It is in our genes but unfortunately, some of us (most of us) can't control our instincts and end up being bitches.

[redeyemindtricks]

1)
Yeah, I've seen what happens to male friendships as soon as a halfway attractive woman happens along... mahahahaaaa.
"Bros before hos" happens... in dictionaries. Annnnnd that's about it.

2)
Hang with women who actually DO STUFF with their lives, and, yeah, nope.
Idle hands, etc.
This is just the equivalent of dudes who use their excessive free time to go out and start trouble of the more physical kind.

3)
Imagine... Girlfriends actually LOOK OUT FOR EACH OTHER. Shocker!
As opposed to guys and their "bros" who will just sit there and fold their hands, if one of their own takes up with an obviously toxic woman.
Srsly... I ALWAYS have to be the bad guy if one of my guy friends is in a toxic relationship. His boys will sit there, watch her ruin his life, and not say SHIT. 🙄

4)
Mah gurls and I are "competitive" in the way we're INSPIRED by each other.
We hold each other up, not knock each other down.

5)
Some things are better kept to oneself, in polite company. Think of... the things you wouldn't mention at a house party. And WHY you wouldn't mention them.
Same thing.
If someone is *obnoxious* about foisting certain views and topics on anyone and everyone -- to the point where SHE OR HE is an eternal insufferable killjoy, and perhaps even a threat to the cohesion of *other* friendships -- then yeah, we don't want anything to do with HER OR HIM.

Ffuuuuuuuuuuuuu

Last but not least... People are mirrors. You get what you give.
If you think the problem is with ALL women... Nope. Look in the damn mirror.
#stayclassy

[myTake Owner]

Well I've given these people birthday gifts, money, food, did favors for them and in return I get backstabbed?

[myTake Owner]

And if I'm not being backstabbed they only text or call me if they need something from me, not to hang out or go somewhere.

[redeyemindtricks]

Money and gifts don't buy friendships, any more than they buy relationships.
If a guy paid for dates, meals, etc for you, would you feel an "obligation" to get physical with him, or to go on another date (any more than otherwise)? I sure as fuck hope not.
Same dynamic.

With my girls, I pay way more than my share when we go out -- but, that's because (1) I do really well for myself and can easily afford to, AND, (2) I'm just a giving person, with people I like and trust. That's one of my "love languages", as they say.
Am I keeping a scoreboard? Fuck no.
Others of us are way more giving than me in terms of, say, effusive emotional support (I can seem cold/bitchy at times, even when I genuinely and deeply care). Or with volunteering *time* to help someone (I'm a very busy person).
It all evens out.

On the other hand, if you LET people use you... well... don't be surprised if that's exactly what they do.
And no, that's not just a thing that women do. Nor only *to* women.

[bbch25]

Completely 100% agree and really well written.

[redeyemindtricks]

@bbch25 Thanks <3
Which part? The original, or the most recent comment?

"Only in the dictionary" baha I made myself laugh. That's all that matters, right? 😂

[bbch25]

Ahaha that was good!
All of it is well written! Your comment and the original.

Wait, am I supposed to be tearing you down right now though?

[redeyemindtricks]

@bbch25 Oh shit! LOL are we doing this wrong?
•_________•

Uh... hm...
You fake-ass insincere-compliment-givin'-ass bitch! Get yr ass off MY opinion! Get yr own!
😂😂
<3
:*

There, is that... better?

[bbch25]

I've already tried to seduce your husband and told all your friends not true secrets about because you have a poopoo face!

[redeyemindtricks]

@bbch25 Oh don't worry bitch, my other "friends" already told me all about that, while they were trying to blame *you* for their OWN attempts to steal my man and sabotage my marriage.
Don't worry, you're so... photogenic. You always look so good in pictures... so there's no way you could seduce him in person. :*

[bbch25]

I'll beat you at this game. I'll win. I'm bitchier than you are. I have so many friends, I've destroyed all my friends relationships, and I don't even care.
I'll take all your friends husbands too!

[redeyemindtricks]

@bbch25 Yh you can have 'em. I always appreciate having a little sis to take my hand-me-downs... mb you can even taste my last period all over their faces <3
I'll stick to being the homewrecker where I can fuck and dump the dudes *before* all you sluts get yr chance, tyvm.

P. S. Make sure you feed them their Viagra an hour before. And not because THEY're old... Mwah bb. Ever notice how all the boys like to fuck you in the doggy position? ::shrugs:: Guess they enjoy the view.

<3 <3

[bbch25]

I'm so behind the curve. I have much to learn. You're so gorgeous. Let's be friends? I promise I don't intend on learning all your tricks and attitudes and wit, and then using it against you in the future.
You're just so pretty... But did you see OPs hair today? Urgh - ick.

[redeyemindtricks]

@bbch25 Oh sure! Besides, I could use another friend -- I just ended a long relationship.

Oh, no, silly, not MY relationship.
Yours, actually.
:*

Don't worry, the OP is probably a boy. Have I seen his hair? Ffuuuuuu he hasn't seen his OWN hair... for years, actually.

Nice outfit by the way! Girl I swear, I love yr confidence. You'll just wear *anything*.

[bbch25]

Oh thaaaannkss.. It's such a great outfit.
And I love your dress today... Antique?

That was you? Urgh, I that was Jane that messaged my boyfriend. Oh well. More where they came from, after all I only want money from men and he was running out.

OP is definitely a boy. But boys are sacred and special according to him/her so I can't insult OP if it's really a boy.

[redeyemindtricks]

@bbch25 😂😂😂 <3

[myTake Owner]

Then how do I make sure girls don't take advantage of me? Stop being nice?

[bbch25]

So far the common denominator all of this, is you. And your hatred of girls.
You keep talking about how you're always nice and always trying, but if the next girl you meet you're nice to.. I wouldn't really believe that because you seem to already hate 4 billion people on this planet. And people will get that vibe.

So, I doubt you'll be able to be 100% and tell us what you're actually like, or maybe you just don't know, and I"m sure there are just a few bad eggs you've met out there, but maybe also look internally.

[Anonymous]

Just gonna post this quote from a female gager which was confirmed by other women on BB. COM

"Women do not have friends we have competition. We lie to our so-called female friends and pretend we are loyal and faithful to them, just like we do with the men in our lives. Secretly, we are jealous of each other, and we want all of the desirable things that other women have—most especially when it comes to our female friends’ things. And we consider men to be things. If one of our friends has a hot man, we want him to want us. We will do everything we can to seduce him. Not because we really want him—we don’t really want anybody. We do it because we are rarely happy, and we don’t want our girlfriends to be happy, either, and we want to boost our own egos more than anything else. And after we get him to fuck us, when our girlfriends find out that he has had sex with us, that’s when we finally get what we wanted in the first place. If we break up the previously happy couple, that’s fine, too. It’s all about our pussy, not hers. It’s about winning."

[Relentless_Hippie]

That's absolutely disgusting.

[bbch25]

... No...

[Jessicocoa]

Wrong. This is a another quote from that bs return of king article lmao.

[Anonymous]

Interesting take. by the way the second girl from the left in the top picture is ridiculously hot?

Well written and I don't blame you. The drama, the mind games, the jealousy and mood swings are insane. I think it's kinda like holding themselves back from living a fulfilling life by playing games?

I do see your point and find some women are playing crazy games. I wonder whether you can check out my two questions on such behaviour. Would appreciate your views:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2200664-why-do-girls-read-reply-later-on-whatsapp-even-to-friends-potential

and www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2182612-how-d-a-woman-act-around-these-guys-do-they-allow-some-men-to-get

[lumos]

That's a shame. My 6 closest friends are all girls, and we've never done any of the above to each other.
I hope you realize that you're generalizing billions of people and that many of them are honest, respectful, genuine, helpful, caring, nice and funny.

[Agirlwithalemon]

I always say you know when a female isn't actually that close with her males friends by how she portrays them. Males are very dramatic. LOL. I'm sure males love drama just as much as females. Males betray you as well, they are very competitive, and if you two are very close, they treat you like one of the "boys" which means you get treated how they treat their male friends. Which could mean they aren't afraid to fart around you, burp around you, tell things to you how it is. Trust me, being friends with males come with its down side.

[myTake Owner]

What downside?

[Alyssa1111]

I could totally relate to those 5 points with like, 95% of the girls I've met all my life (including family).
Of course, not all girls act in this way, including me and 2 of my best friends. And I'm presuming you don't do those things either.

Befriending guys is better with regards to the 5 points you've mentioned. However, I find that whenever I try to be friends with a guy, drama always happens and we stop talking. Either he likes me, I like him or there's another girl or guy in the equation and one gets jealous.

I don't even know anymore LOL

[Anonymous]

You got all the female gaggers triggered as fuckk lmaoo. Its true. Girls are unbearable seriously all they do is whine and start drama because thats the only thing their little brains are capable of doing. Men love their buds unconditionally. Thats admirable. The girls here are mad because they are the backstabbing jealous h*es. I was born with female parts so i'm "female" but i really don't identify as one and i'm ashamed of being a "girl" . Oh and i will NEVER try being friends with girls ever again.

[Bumby]

So because you had a bad experience, all girls on this planet must be the same. Lmaoo

I feel sorry for you.

[KibbityKabbit]

Speaking for our entire gender & yourself as well, I'm sorry you've had bad experiences. I've honestly been kicked down by both genders. I had just as many guy friends as I did gal pals & now I only have one true friend left. Guess what? SHE'S A GIRL!!! Not trying to offend you, but I think it's really stupid to generalize an entire group of people, because many shit on you. Also, I hope you're not one of those girls who suddenly feels superior to the rest of us, because you solely hang out with guys. That bullshit gets annoying so fucking fast. You're still a girl, so why not set an example of how you wanna be a friend & someone WILL jive with you on that. Hope is not all lost.

[chigurl33]

Actually I've had a lot of those friends too and it has hurt... until I realized they somehow knew I needed friends and decided they could take advantage of me. I have more guys as friends now but I still have some pretty cool female friends. Learn how to do your own thing, the god ones eventually come around.

Good luck

[Relentless_Hippie]

I understand what you're talking about, but these are just bad people in general. My female friends aren't that different from my male friends. The female friends that I do have are super supportive and they're nice to me.

What you've described sounds like the mean popular types that are only popular because they're slutty and obnoxious not because they're kind and caring. Normal people aren't like this, just a-holes.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I feel like I could've written this myself. I lost a lot of female friends back in high school for these reasons. I recently had to quit a job because of the four grown women (including my female supervisor) who were still engaging in this high school mentality and behavior. I am a private person who mostly kept to myself and didn't share personal info so they made up rumors. Then they seemed to make it their daily mission to sabotage my work. Prior to this I'd never been written up before and suddenly I was getting written up for things I didn't even do. I knew it was time to quit once I went to HR and told them about my supervisor and the coworkers and all she did was smirk at me and tell me to grow thicker skin. Some women are so evil to each other.

[Mrwoo99]

Also never tell a girl a secret, something personal or even your business because whether its deliberate or by accidental women can't hold their own piss to save their own life. They have this actual NEED or itch to gossip and broadcast to friends, family and everyone. Women are slaves to their emotions which is part of why I think they're unstable and risky as human beings and I refuse to cooperate with them unless I desperately want to have sex with her.

PS: All women are whores until proven otherwise in the MGTOW court of law, anything you do maybe used against you as evidence in the MGTOW court of law.

[bbch25]

Not even sure if so much sarcasm, or so much hate...

[Mrwoo99]

@bbch25 Dont kid your self sweet cheeks, its a fact. I'm always a closed book when it comes to women because I always know they're fishing for information when they're asking questions about who I am.

[bbch25]

Because god forbid a woman just wants genuine friendship and the idea of knowing your name or hobbies is just that... And not them compiling a list of things to put into a database online so all women secretly access it to know secrets about all men everywhere!

[Sara413]

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[MysteriumMysteriorum]

"Plus I've got your back, Nye!"

[Rainie_]

I've met a lot of guys who are exactly the same tbh.
My current best friends are nothing like that AT ALL, you just haven't come across the right people yet or you're not coming across as a reliable or a "keeper" kind of person so they don't value you.

[myTake Owner]

What do you mean by that? I'm always so nice to them and they take advantage of me and are rude back to me.

[Rainie_]

You can't just be nice to whoever and expect them to treat you well back. I've been fucked over with that mindset before. You need to learn to recognise who's trustworthy and who's not. Perhaps you just don't have a very good judgement of people when it comes to girls.

[NyomiMcClinton]

I agree with this post. I generally dont have to many female friends. I am getting older, I work, and I have a child. Being in a friend especially with females I find that they can be clingy. And I dont have time to be setting around on the phone gossiping all day about unnecessary stuff. I have a child to raise and I work. Women who are busy with their career, school and children generally tend to not have a lot of friends because of their busy schedule.

[Hollywood-Glam]

While not all girls are like that, I can't blame you for your decision if *every* girl in your life has been crappy. I only have female friends, even though some of them come off as bitter sometimes, they're fun to be with.
We all know the feeling of being around the wrong people. I will never talk again to two girls who I once considered to be my friends. They were bad influence. They kept on badly influencing me, until one day it hit me like a slap on the face. It's very toxic when your so called friends have no idea that their behavior is wrong, and you as well on the other hand don't notice it as well. So much negativity (not in a vulgar way or directed to me) and they had such pessimistic ways of thinking, that somehow manipulated me to perform poorly in school. I don't know if you had the same problem with your girlfriends.

[Cherokeehp]

So basically you won't befriend other girls because you have already made sweeping generalizations about them. You're missing out on a lot of potential good friends.

[myTake Owner]

Well this is how I've been treated by other girls my whole life.

[Cherokeehp]

Then you've been hanging out with bad people your whole life.

[myTake Owner]

Then where do I find girls who won't treat me like this?

[Cherokeehp]

Church
School
Work
Parks
Parties
Libraries
Museums
Stores
Restaurants

LITERALLY EVERYWHERE

[BrileyCat]

something tells me there is something about you that provokes girls
to treat you the way you claim they do . maybe you should look into your own behavior and social skills as to how you treat them and affect them .

[supernerd99]

ridiculous comment. if someone is a bitch she is a bitch. no matter what you do. gossipers, slanderers, evil jealous fucks that will try to compromise your relationship, are like that INDEPENDENTLY of your behavior towards them.

[myTake Owner]

My social skills aren't that great so I may come off as a bit odd but either way I've been nothing but nice to these "friends" and they all still backstab me.

[Anonymous]

Yes I totally agree but you don't need to give up on girls there are some horrible bitter nasty ones I tend to find a lot of girls try rip me down out of their own jealousy.

They like a guy they don't say they like him I get with the guy they turn nasty

I talk positively about myself they find a way to rip me down with a "kind" insult in the next sentence

That sort of stuff I find it hard to trust girls! I have some girl friends some in their early 20s some in their 40's 50's and even 60's and i would seriously say women over 30 are so much better than younger ones! The 20 YOs are good for when I want a super girly night out i seem to get more guys chatting to me when I'm with them but their worlds are so dramatic and they have a lot of need to grow still they are very immature! and I spend most of my time helping them, listening to them or giving advice to them. The ones my age and older have their s$%t together and can't be bothered with the drama etc