About 98% of my friends are males. It’s very difficult making friends with girls. I’m quiet and shy so I’m not the type to approach people but when I do put myself out there to make friends no one gravitates towards me. The girls don’t want to hang out with me but always has the most to say about me. I work with a bunch of girls and they go out and drink and go to parties together. They are all pretty too.
I have the same problem. I’m quiet, not shy just reserved and attractive. I’m more of an anime nerdy type girl but outwards I look like I’m social. I don’t club, I don’t drink, I don’t smoke.. so right off the bat I don’t belong in most female social groups.
I have better luck finding “specialized” girl friends. Ones who like one or most interests I like, and they usually have friend groups I join in on. I have a group of female friends who also likes anime and video games. We usually all relate to the same things.
I can also point out, the pretty you are, the less girls want to be around you because they see you as a threat. I’m attractive but not in the typical “pretty girl group” way where all of the girls are about the same level of attractiveness. Girls are extremely jealous and envious especially when fueled by male attention.. and honestly, I don’t really have male friends either as most of them just want to sleep with me under it all.
Unfortunately, most women are b*tches, to be honest. Gossipy and two faced. Especially ones with lots of other girl friends. I’d not even bother trying to make girl friends unless she is just like yourself. We exist, we just don’t leave the house lol
I think with girls its tougher for guys to be "just friends" if she's pretty and he has feelings for her. Girls usually don't have things in common that much with guys anyways. For me, I have certain religious and political views, I like sports, certain movies, certain foods. If you don't connect with someone on any similarity, how can you be friends with someone? I tend to find girls are more gossipy, talk about drama and other irrelevant matters that I don't care about. I don't want to talk about reality television or pointless shows like the Grammys. If a girl is chill, down to earth, keeps it 100 then great. But the truth is, I want to get married and if I only have 1 female friend in my life, I want her to be someone I am with in a relationship where she is also essentially my best friend and someone I marry down the road. I have a small group of guy friends. The guys I know who just have anger problems, are negative, do drugs, party, drink booze and etc. I stopped talking to them. To me, being close to your family, having a significant other where he or she is your best friend, and then a small handful of trustful, loyal friends, also civilness with your community and respect/friendliness with your work colleagues, that's what I want.
When you're socializing with girls you have to earn a place within the group by adopting their culture, and seeming of interest. If you fall outside this they'll ostracize you and/ or play on character assassination.
Guys want to sleep with you, and will pursue you (this may come off to you as interest in you as a person, or "being just a really good friend"), but guys will always show more interest in interacting with you (even as an average looking girl) than other girls will.
I will say some can really make it complicated, and over all il say guys are more simple and more chill about the entire thing
How ever regardless at work I do recommend trying to get more friendlt with your co-workers, its importent for a better day at work
I currently work with one more girl coming from a very diffrent background, and sadly really can't get them on a very good status, its a shame, but I guess your company is bigger, and it may make it easier if you can at least get in with friends of them may help you improve work life 😊
TL:DR I get you, got I belive same amout of females as male friends here
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I know that I struggle to form friendships with women because they often aren’t nice people. They are backstabby, flaky, gossipy, generally rude and wishywashy. Every female friendship I’ve had has only ever been a friendship of convenience.
I’m sure I’m missing out on some wonderful friendships, but I just can’t seem to find them.
Because we [females] make it complicated. Like you, the majority of my friends are guys: they're more chill, easy to talk to, have minimal drama, and aren't as backstabbing.
And before anyone says, "All women aren't like that!" No, they're not. But try finding them. Even women that have been friends for years will admit they sometimes get on each other's nerves, or do things that annoy the other. Unfortunately females just have a knack of taking down and competing with each, unintentional or not.
I think women today are as a group too unforgiving.
Weird, opposite for me. I have a few guy friends, but almost entirely girl friends. I don't go out of my way to make friends either. Women just seem to initiate more. And I reciprocate. It's not that guys are rude or anything, they just don't talk to me. They don't even seem to notice me. I know if I spoke up more, if I was more friendly to them, they may reciprocate. But it's difficult because like you said, it seems they aren't open to it. And they haven't reciprocated most times.
Same, most of my friends are guys. With girls there is too much drama, competition and subtle back stabbing. You never really know how they actually feel or what their motives are.
Guys are just more chill and straightforward.
It's hard to enter a clique when they dislike you. My advice would be don't let it get to you and seek friendships from outside of work either at church or an activity you enjoy. If you are not religious then try using an app called Meetup, Instagram or Facebook to find local communities.
Not to brag but I can’t be friends with women because they date shitty men and I may not be the best boyfriend/husband but I’m a great friend male or female
but because I treat my female friends better than their men treat them our relationship always turns sexual
which sucks because sometimes I talk to women just to befriend them not to fuck them
Because they wanna be a bitch mainly. I'm easy to get along with aaand once we become good friends, I'll share my deals off my mcdonald's app with you. But doesn't mean I don't bite. :)
two of my friends are women. Five of my friends are men. I’m not a tomboy, but I tend to relate best to men, too. Men can be just as bitchy and gossipy as women. They can even be worse.
Backstabbing competitive smile and cuss you in same breath etc. Sounds a lot like guys too. People suck ‼️ 😎
I like being friends with girls. We have so many common topics to talk about. I find it harder with guys as most of them want to start a romantic relationship later on and talk about sports (especially cricket) which I have zero interest in.
Because women don’t know how to be friends. They act like friends but talk shit behind each other’s backs. Maybe it’s all their emotions.
It's pretty worrying when women can't even be friends with each other
Drama and often jealousy has to ruin everything.
Except, those guy "friends" aren't really your "friends", I guaran-dang-tee it
I believe jealousy plays a big role in this happens.
“The girls don’t want to hangout with me but always has the most to say about me”
Guys are nicer and we just make better friends.
u Because u are shy would be my best guess
Because they’re catty, competitive and cut throat.
