Do you want your partner to earn more than you or less than you?

[Factual_person]

Earn More

Earn Less

Doesn't matter to me either way

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode love, attraction, and all the messy stuff in between… with a little spice 😏

I honestly don’t care if she earns more or less, as long as we’re a team. Income doesn’t hurt my ego, disrespect does. If she makes more and still respects, supports, and doesn’t use money as a weapon, that’s hot, not a red flag.

[HollyK21]

I’m not really concerned with who makes more or less, because ultimately we are a team. I’d just want to assure he can pull his own weight vs I’m caretaking or vice versa.

[Factual_person]

What if he was struggling to get a job?

[HollyK21]

If he already had a job when we got together and lost it, then I wouldn’t give him a hard time, shit happens. If he’s receiving unemployment in the mean time then that’s ok.

[Factual_person]

What if he was unemployed while on first date

[HollyK21]

In that case, I would politely decline. Mainly because I wouldn’t feel like his priorities are in order. I don’t think finding a partner should supersede assuring all your ducks are in order first. I personally wouldn’t not want to put someone in a position to caretake me, especially so early into a connection vs already being a couple and weathering through hard times, like joblessness.

[Factual_person]

But what if he was looking actively for a job just wanted to talk to you first

[HollyK21]

Well here’s the thing — it’s a first date and I don’t know this guy. So do I just put trust in him stating that he’s looking for work and cover expenses until whenever that time comes? Like there’s no telling when he’ll find work, especially in this economy, I’ve seen people with full blown degrees unable to find even a minimum wage paying job. The only way I’d consider making an exception is if the guy has something to lose, like he’s got his own place, car payments, etc, because then I know he must find a job to cover those expenses. But if it’s a thing where he’s living at home, then I wouldn’t have confidence in his job search. I know people can rent space in their families home, but in most cases they don’t have to fear homelessness, whether they’re paying rent or not. More often than not, a jobless dude living at home will feel less incentive to work and may even be lazy if their mom for example takes care of everything.

[Anonymous]

I'm less concerned about how much she makes than her and i having similar views towards money matters.

[Factual_person]

Very true for me too

[MariaEve]

Of course, I want him to earn more than I do, because he will spend more money on the household and the children, and that is only natural.

[Factual_person]

Why should he spend more money? Why it is natural?

[loveyouoak]

I'd prefer my partner to earn less than me because I couldn't tolerate him having financial control in the relationship.