Why I'm Not Like Other Girls

[Anonymous]

A lot of people, especially girls, like to claim that they're nothing like their own gender. Feminists claim that is a sexist thing to say but it's not sexist if it's actually true based on statistics. I don't think there's anything wrong with being like other girls. I do have some things in common with other woman, but there are some fundamental aspects that differ from most women. It's just the way I am. Physically, I have a lot of feminine characteristics. I have a vagina, big boobs, long hair, and etc. But mentally, there are big differences. Sometimes I wonder if I'm intersex and don't know it. For example, my outer shell is completely female but there may be some male organs, cells and tissues inside me and my DNA, which also affected my brain.

I'm actually androgynous

This means that I'm equally masculine and feminine. I'm not as feminine as other women. but I'm not that masculine either. I like every color. I like knitting, sewing cooking, baking, women's fashion, makeup and many other traditionally feminine activities. But I also like fishing, carpentry, boating, lifting, archery, shooting and other traditionally masculine activities which most girls aren't interested in. So it pretty much equals out.

I have a very high sex drive

My sex drive is insanely high compared to other women. I can have sex with my partner everyday. There are days where I want it all the time. Some days when I want it only once. I sometimes masturbate multiple times a day. I can have sex with guys who I don't have an emotional connection with and I never get emotionally attached after having sex.

I'm mostly dominant

I'm socially and sexually dominant. I know what I want and I can make up my mind. Who I am outside the bedroom is also who I am inside the bedroom.

I have a deep voice

I hate listening to my own voice. I rarely meet girls who have voices as deep as mine (or even deeper).

I don't mind dating a guy who has a lower social status than me

I hear that most girls wouldn't date a guy who makes less than they do. I wouldn't mind it as long as we like each other and he doesn't get insecure about it.

I would date a bisexual guy

I'm straight but I see that a lot of straight girls say that they wouldn't date a bisexual guy.

I don't have any friends

Almost every girl has at least one friend. Girls are more social than boys, but I'm very asocial compared to most girls. No, I'm not one of those girls who thinks that all girls are bitchy and catty. I think only a minority of girls are bitchy and catty, but they most certainly don't represent the majority of girls. I just don't think I can a find a girl who can click with me. I also don't think the majority of boys can be 'just friends' with me.

I'm autistic

On average, girls are a lot less likely to be autistic. I think my autism is more severe than people think it is but I'm just good at hiding it.

I like being completely independent

Unlike most girls, I don't like to rely on other people and I don't like getting help from others. I like to travel alone. I also don't like to vent to people in person. I'd rather talk to myself or write about it. I feel more accomplished when I can handle my problems on my own despite people advising me that I shouldn't be like this. Maybe if I was a guy, people would applaud this.

I have that no nonsense attitude

This usually doesn't work in my favor because I'm girl. If I was a guy, it would work well for me.

I'm very honest

Most girls lie in order to avoid hurting people's feelings and to be politically correct but I don't care about any of that. I think the cold, harsh truth is way more important than feelings.

I wouldn't get offended if my partner doesn't completely trust me

I don't trust anyone 100% and I don't expect my partner to trust me 100%. As long as they respect me and love me, I don't care that they don't trust me 100%. Unlike most girls, I don't think I'm entitled to be trusted by people. I'm not planning to have kids. A lot of girls say they would end the relationship if their partner gets a DNA test for their child, but I wouldn't be hurt or end the relationship because of that. I know paternal uncertainty is a real thing.

I'm politically moderate

Most girls seem to be totally liberal. I think for myself and sometimes I don't even pick a side on certain topics.

Thanks for reading. There may be more things I don't have in common with other girls but this is all I can think of for now.

[Pineapple_Boy]

You're unique @asker. Don't let's anyone tell you otherwise. 😊

[Kdog_84]

Sounds like my kinda female

[Tuxxy]

Ignore the other people claiming you're exactly the same its very common for androgenic differences in people. You literally listed all the signs of good test levels, the dominant in social situations sticks out the most as well as the high sex drive.

Count yourself lucky, your perfectly healthy having 'big boobs' and well of course a vagina but you get some great benefits along side it test is great makes you feel on top of the world and if its working for you own it!

Claiming your 'androgynous' and both a boy and a girl though is wrong because if guys get androgen we grow boobs and become fat, we also feel extremely depressed due to decreasing test levels. You might have high test in contrast to most females but you won't have test levels equivalent to males, unless your shaving everyday have bodyfat stored in the same way as a male and you're able to put muscle mass on extremely fast your not both a male and a female lol.

Your just a female with a higher than average test level, if your test exceeded your estrogen (like it does in guys) you'd be noticing a lot of physical changes real quick, this is what transexuals do in order to transfer genders.

To be honest I'd say your test levels are not even too high. They kinda counteract each other, test decreases estro and vice versa go google girls on steroids then you'll know what a girl with high test is like. I think you'll find there are plenty of girls who are just the same sadly.

"For example, my outer shell is completely female but there may be some male organs, cells and tissues inside me and my DNA, which also affected my brain."

Not how it works you'd see physical changes far before mental changes. Steroid users don't feel any mental affects until months into injecting test. You likely just have more test than the average lady but to claim your test levels are the same as a male I'd find very hard to agree with.

Also any girl can do this. Its called working out, it'll shoot your testosterone up and you'll feel every single effect you listed. What concerns me is you said you have no friends, why? It seems you are preducing people because they aren't the same as you well stop being overly aggressive there's standing up for yourself then being a dick, make sure your not going over the line or people just won't want to associate with you.

Good read but plenty I'd disagree with, be intriguing if you posted a follow up with test and endrogen levels checked.

[lilaqua]

You aren't as special as you think you are. The only thing slightly unconventional about you is you're autistic which is difficult I get, but not exactly something that's inherently wonderful.
1. This is pretty common, hell you actually have more "feminine" interests than my friends combined
2. It's called being a normal woman. I'm like this too, I can outpace pretty much most men sexually.
3. Again that's most people. Surprisingly sexual dominance is rarer in humans than submission is, both in men and women, but it's not uncommon by any stretch of the imagination
4. ?, wonderful. And my ears are almost perfectly pointed, i've never met other people like this. Therefore i'm special...
5 and 6. same, so would multiple women I know
7. Not something you should really be proud of tbh. Whether you're a boy or girl this does send the message that's something's not alright
8. Cool. It's like those tumblr bitches that constantly refer to their mental illness and use it as some sort of leverage over us "normies". No one cares.
9. Again, I'm like this. Effectively all my mates are like this. For someone that knows upwards of 100 girls well, I can count those on one hand that rely on other people.
10-13. Again, personally same along with everyone I know
14. Wonderful. It's not like women think for themselves or anything and find that liberal policies generally help those out within the state the most. It's not like women aren't as left winger as people make them out to be. Just because you're a centrist doesn't mean you're more informed, more politically engaged or more intelligent. It just shows your experience and beliefs, nothing more.

God this is pretty bad

[Juxtapose]

"God this is pretty bad"

Yeah, your reply was.

[lilaqua]

@Juxtapose Mate, she's literally saying she's better than everyone by being completely un
selfaware.

[Juxtapose]

"I don't think there's anything wrong with being like other girls. I do have some things in common with other woman, but there are some fundamental aspects that differ from most women. It's just the way I am."

It seems (to me) like she's just socially unaware that she comes off as bragging when in reality she probably just wants someone to share herself with, to let her take some pride in her differences.

[myTake Owner]

I'm not saying I'm inherently wonderful. What is your opinion on this? Why I'm Not Like Other Girls (Part Two) ↗

[lilaqua]

it's even worse, pretty much every one of the things you listed I am too for god's sake

[lilaqua]

I think the problem is you actually don't have any female friends, so you have to rely your opinion on them is through stereotypes.

[cherryphi82]

You are EXACTLY like other women. You have no statistics to back you up and you obviously don't hang around other women enough to know that they are exactly like you are. Nothing you described makes you in any way out of the ordinary, except the internal organ thing, which I know is just your way of trying to get a rise out of people. If you were truly intersex, you would have titled your take around that and described the specificities of livin with that condition. Instead, you are pitting yourself against other women. Another boring chick desperately trying to be relevant. Next.

[DryJake2015]

There is beauty in diversity. You may be way different from what others call the "norm". I'm sure you've heard this many times before, nobody is truly like another. We're all gonna have our differences. Some more extreme than other others. And unless those extremes violate the universal laws of ethics and morals, you don't need to change. We are not mindless robots following orders. We are free-thinking, intricate human beings. If someone is putting you down for those reasons you've listed, don't let their insensitive words or actions cause doubt or shame where there shouldn't be any. Don't worry. Don't lose hope. Someone will come along. Someone with similar views you have. You are not alone. <3

[musical_kittycat]

I'm actually androgynous
I'm mostly dominant
I don't mind dating a guy who has a lower social status than me
I would date a bisexual guy
I like being completely independent
I have that no nonsense attitude
I'm very honest*
I wouldn't get offended if my partner doesn't completely trust me

I relate to 9 out of 13.

*I'm honest except for the cold harsh truth thing. I think it's better to gently reveal the truth than just come right out and say it without regard for others' feelings. No offense.

[myTake Owner]

How much can relate to from this myTake? Why I'm Not Like Other Girls (Part Two) ↗

[musical_kittycat]

Ten out of twelve! :D

[Goddess_Lexii]

I am very dominant, and my husband and I both consider myself the Queen of the relationship. I dominate him in the bedroom, he does what I say, I own and operate my own business, and my husband enjoys keeping the house clean, cooking, gardening, and stuff that may be perceived as feminine.
I am a strong woman, and that’s are there Ian to it.
Never question your “identity” because you were born either one or the other.
There is ONLY 2 sexes on this planet. This goes for every single human, every animal, every single plant on earth; there is a male and female variety.
You don’t have gay lions frolicking around in the meadow arguing about their LGBT rights!
Kiwis, for example, females will NOT produce fruit (babies) until the pollen from the males (sperm) activates them.

Be you, be strong, and be content with your somewhat masculine femininity; it’s a good thing. Especially in the Female future! 😍

[MlleCake]

It's wrong of you to think of other women purely as stereotypes. There is not a woman you know who fits all the stereotypes of women. What you're revealing is that you buy into the stereotypes and think you're different because you aren't following the stereotype. But the reality is that NO woman follows all the stereotypes. Get to know other women, especially multi-generational women, on more than a surface level and you will see that.

[Pikachula]

I don't think It is that unique.

I mean I'm feminine and I like guy stuff too.
For instance I like anything fast, like racing.

High sexdrive is also there, independency.
Also very honest, even blunt and no nonsense.

I'm not autistic though and do have friends, but I feel like these two have something to do with Each other..

But I'm also crazy about makeup , pink stuff, anything cats and unicorn cute and kawaii things.
I like marvel hero's and football.

I think there's nothing that much unique about us.😅

[Wordtwizler]

The reason why people get upset about the phrase, "I'm not like other girls" is...
1. It makes it sound like there is some way that every girl SHOULD be. There are stereotypes but you are going to be hard pressed to find a girl that fits every stereotype. Girls are unique. We're not just cookie cutter, sitcom character.
2. It makes it sound like if you fit any of those stereotypes, it's bad.
Women are individuals. We shouldn't have to compare ourselves in every aspect.

[PrincessPie]

Although you might consider yourself unusual, there are a lot more people out there like this the same gender as you than you'd think.

[Jazzy9090]

I always felt different and not like other people, let alone other women. People can say it’s self-absorbed all they want, but you know yourself. When I stumbled onto the Myers-Briggs and found out my “type” would be an INTJ, I realized that I am rare (females of this type are the rarest) and the way I am sets me apart from other women. It explains why I never felt connected to other women. Doesn’t make me better or worse, but I mean different from the norm. Perhaps you are an INTJ as well.

[Lynzerilee]

So do I as an INFP and so would INFJ and ISTJs etc.. we all feel different from other types, until we meet one that we can relate to.

[Jazzy9090]

@Lynzerilee Yep. Until that day comes, you feel different because you don’t just step outside your door and connect with people like others do. You don’t feel a natural “rapport” it’s others.

[lilaqua]

I actually know a INTJ, she never seemed all that different from other women, never seemed like she felt that way either.

[Lynzerilee]

@lilaqua my best friend is ESTP, the type I don't get along with the most, but she just understands me a lot, sometimes I think she mistyped as one lol it all depends on the person and how they choose to be their own selves, it's what makes them diff.

[lilaqua]

@Lynzerilee I wouldn’t blame it on the Myers Briggs. It can only tell you so much. It’s probably making you worse because it’s a self perpetuating cycle. I have a hard time getting on with people and I’m one of the most common types, especially for women, and that’s because I’m kind of anti-social and shy, not because my type tells me so.

[Lynzerilee]

@lilaqua I totally agree with you, therefore i don't rely my ansolute judgment on MBTI

[starshina]

I think what your story tells up that we should always love ourselves for who we are... even we say it or not, accept it or not But we do have some common things ( we all do) but still every body have some uniqueness (man, women, others) but just to fit in the society, we forget ourselves and those uniqueness... you can do so many things that mostly girls won't like but boys find it interesting and same with girls side... you are a alrounder dear you can make all types of people happy girl side and boys side both ☺️... be happy 😎

[Prankster13]

Okay. I know you just said most men don't want to be just friends. And you seem to not like that. So I will say first that you sound fine and like a great lady. I'd love to be friends with you. Even if it is just friends. I could definitely use some freinds besides the two I have now as well.

(But also I could use a more-than-friend besides the zero I have now.. are you single?)

[Anonymous]

Some of these attributes are quite contradictory, for example, autistic people usually don't tend to be dominant.
I consider androgynous as a term used for hermaphrodites in biology (species with each specimen having both male and female reproductive organs, capable of self-fertilization), while femininity and masculinity are a social construct. Androgyny in humans usually means transvestism, unlike tomboyishness which usually includes a girl who prefers wearing unisex clothes and enjoys rough, noisy activities traditionally associated with boys.
Anyway, quite an interesting mytake.

[Edanurus]

You're not different from most girls, you just don't follow the loud minority, most girls don't.

Most people who think they're different aren't really, reminds me of an old meme from years ago which had a group of stick people on the subway all thinking 'look at all these sheep I'm glad I;m not like that.'

[windknowsmyname]

*slow clap* thats great.. but who are you really on the inside that makes different. True not many would be like you but there's some out there thats doing more. Its not what you do that makes you different its who you are at your very core that matters. Hobbies and external goals or achievements come and go. But hey what do i know

[Riggers]

You forgot to list that you love attention seeking.. seriously.. you think anyone gives a fuck? lmao

you're not special.. you're just like every other human...

[0112358]

I’m guessing you don’t know any autistic women.

[Riggers]

@0112358
Op has basically listed a slew of traits that are absolutely 100% normal in women.

Can't say I've ever met an autistic woman, no, plenty of autistic dudes though.

[0112358]

They’re semi normal in women though a few of them women tend to play up for attention which is I think people are accusing her of attention seeking.

Quite a few of them would be pretty much standard for an autistic woman though and I suspect she’s not playing them up -at all-

For most autisics the entire concept of attention seeking is incomprehensible.

[Riggers]

@0112358 fair comment.

[LovingZombi]

I get what your saying... Most people i know try to act as one whole being like a 'girl' with no individual thinking, and try not to over analyse things only based off of appearance. You accept who you are as an individually because you feel unique and express yourself positively.

i feel that i'm different then most people rather then gender. And have a different process of thinking then what you've written.

[wingattebaby16]

I am proud of you for this statement of YOU!

I agree with a lot of what you wrote...

i have a high sex drive
I have few if any friends
I am most dominant
I would date any guy, lower status or not
I would date a bisexual guy, but not if his male friend was involved
I am too honest for my own good
I am a major tomboy

[samhayne]

Sounds like you are very self absorbed and want attention. That makes you just like pretty much just like every other chick. Sorry, but that's what I see here.

[Bandit74]

lol, I love how you got three girls to upvote you for saying that most girls are self absorbed attention seekers 😂

[Multi]

@Bandit74 i mean who wouldn't upvote him. Its 99.9% the case most of the time

[samhayne]

@Bandit74 They know what she's up to. Much better than all the simps in this post who think they've found their waifu.

[ItsMeCiCi]

This is exactly what I was thinking as I read this post. I'm glad someone said it. Except, not every girl is self absorbed, just the majority.

[samhayne]

@ItsMeCiCi It was a pretty cringeworthy read. No sooner had I begun to wonder who actually believes this crap did all the simps rush in to validate her, Increasing the cringe factor by 1000.