It's that simple, gentlemen. We see nothing in you that sweeps us off our feet or makes us want to sit on top of your face during heated bedroom moments. It's just not there and as much as we sometimes try to force it (Ladies NEVER pity-date a guy!) the attraction is not there. But it's nothing personal because at the end of it all we do wish you the best. One woman's opinion of you does not by any chance make you less worthy. Trust me..
2) It could work.. in the future...
Okay so this type of friendzone is where the girl is actually considering the guy friend who is trying to get out of the friendzone due to desirable traits she can actually work with. BUT the timing could be really awkward and therefore she places you on hold, hoping that it will somehow work itself out in the future. The guys in this category are normally genuine guys who are actually fit to be a future husband.
Us girls see this but some of us don't snatch you up quick because we need to find ourselves or we feel that we need to hoe around a little before settling down with the best man. Guys, if you're placed on hold please don't wait too long. As much as we would love to end up with some of you, at the end of the day it wouldn't be fair on you to wait up on something that could possibly take half your lifetime. Just move on and if it's meant to be, it will definitely happen in time. On behalf of us girls, thank you for being the Hero we've never had.
3) Wolf in sheeps clothing....
Last but not least...the third reason why a girl friend-zones a guy is because we see right through him. Listen, we girls know fake when we see it especially when it comes to the males. Our woman intuition is on POINT. Some of you may be wondering, "Bitch if your woman intuition is on point why do girls go after bad guys?" Here's the thing, and what I'm about to tell you sounds really retarded:
BUT us girls know that Mr. Bad Guy is actually a bad guy. Heck we smell that shit from afar but we go after him because we are IN DENIAL. There, I said it. We KNOW he is wrong for us. We KNOW he is going to hurt us before he even introduces himself but we don't listen to our God-gifted woman intuition because we're denial and then fool ourselves into thinking that we can change him and mold him into the man of our dreams, and when our intuition becomes a reality we get heartbroken over shit we knew was gonna happen.
We are prophetic when it comes to men but we just don't listen. Anyways, going back to wolf dressed in sheep's clothing, what I mean is that sometimes you get guys who act like Mr Nice guy but in reality all of that bullshit is exactly that: BULLSHIT. We are aware of your innovative ways of trying to get into my new pair of panties and therefore we kick you to the friendzone where we can tame you a little. We see you. We know your stories. And we're definitely not riding with you.
There you have it! 3 possible reasons why girls friendzone guys. Hate it or Love it. It is what it is. Just do me a favour and guard your damn heart! Deuces ✌
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2. Is alpha fucks/beta bucks strategy.
Fuck and screw all the guys you actually have more sexual attraction for while keeping beta boy time locked away for when you want to settle down and have a nice husband.
"They are the men who are lucky enough to finally get the girl after waiting years (sometimes decades) for her to come around and realize what a great catch he is. Hearing those sweat words from girl friends (yes, friends that are girls, not the other way around) lips, 'you're so nice, I'm sure you'll end up with a great girl in the end.' is the 'marriage material' kiss of death. When a women, any women (sister, mother, cousin, crush, neighbour, you name it) says some 'marriage material' crap like the above, that means you are beta male material, not worth the lay, but totally worth the resources and security you can provide at a later date decided at her discretion. You're 'marriage material' is the ultimate, subtle, red flag insult any women can give you. Take pride and be happy when you hear these words spoken to you, you now know that it is time to change. "
Usually she will have one and probably more than one child with one or more alpha douchebags before she decides to cuckold some hapless loser into financially supporting her offspring. She may have an anchor baby with him just to lock him in, but the ultimate goal is access to his resources.
@BytheRiver This whole women will come to you after they have kids usually isn't the case since most women know having kids drops their SMV (Sexual market value) and dating value several folds.
Example - If she is an 8/10 physically she becomes a 6/10 post kids.
They'll usually come to these guys after having their fill of cocks from all the hot guys/fuckboys andbasically all the guy that make their vagina wet. Women in general only comes to the beta under the following conditions:
1. She has been pump and dumped so many times by the guys she keeps chasing that her self worth is in the shitter.
2. She is old news and less men pay attention to her. A video i found actually explains why this happens.
3. She has a baby and the baby daddy left (she now cares about kindness over excitement for her child and herself since it's easy to take advantage and control a kind man)
4. When she is ready to settle down, tired of fun life and now wants husband and kids. Easy to control a beta.
Being friendzoned is hardly the worst thing in the world (you can learn a lot about women from being around female friends besides enjoying their company). If you can't even get a female friend that wants to spend some time with you, you've got even bigger problems than not having a girlfriend.
Being around a woman as a friend may in some circumstances make you more attractive to other women, especially if she is attractive.
Very very realistic Take. I like it. I feel like there are more but I've seen these happen a lot... anyway.. 1. No mutual attraction, women never pity date: yea but when the girl likes the guy, he's gotta "man up" and do something... most likely a pity date or shotgun wedding if possible. Some women do pity date by the way, and the one time i experienced that, i was intensely disgusted. 2. It could work in the future, wrong timing: But when a guy does the same thing to a girl and puts her on hold because its not the right time, he apparently is not mature enough, is a player, is just a boy and should make up his mind. 3. Wolf in sheep's clothing: well, can't really argue with this one, its not like we have much of a choice. if you want fish, you don't whatever on the hook, you put bait. Men are wolves (predators), women want sheep (dumbasses) so men dress up like sheep. and I don't doubt the female intuition for one second, that shit is sharp... but other than the denial, here's another reason. Women are so full of contradictory crap, they end up confusing themselves. They also have an annoying habit of only doing what is good at/for the moment. Its not like women can't sense the wolf in sheep clothing, she thinks that Someday, she'll be able to tame that wolf, and have it have eyes for her only... always hoping and trying to change men. denial first... then hoping for future change.
The friendzone is something you choose to stay in, not something that happens to you. Just do yourself a favor and cut contact (or at least don't hang out as friends anymore) after a rejection.
The "no mutual attraction" (usually it means she doesn't find you physically attractive) type of rejection is the most common, I think, and unfortunately one woman's negative opinion of you can definitely mean you'll have a hard time getting similar women, because attractiveness isn't entirely subjective.
no problems with 1 and 3. but 2 is just too much. your backup plan? or option b? because thats all we are. you can sugarcoat it all you want like you did, it won't work. this is why i am never friends with any women im attracted to. i refuse to be someones backup. if im gonna be with a woman its because she DESIRES me , and gets wet for me and gets weak in the knees thinking about me. none of that " hes-gonna-make-a-great-daddy" crap. no guy should marry a girl if you sense even for one second, that you are in for this reason. unfortunatley with all the lovey dovey romantic crap spat at us, a lot of guys fall into this trap. wake dafuk up men. go work out, get a great physique, look sharp, and do whateva dafuk you wanna do. and pick a girl who comes after you. dont pursue a girl till ahe finally " settles" for you.
I have a question about number 3. If you know that a man is only acting nice to get in bed with you, but actually isn't nice at all, then why friendzone them? What I mean is, why even be friends? Why be friends with someone who doesn't respect you? If a woman was pretending to be nice to me just to get something out of me, I would not even give them the courtesy of the friendzone. The friendzone is for my friends. :)
Women try to justify using men like this by implying he wasn't really nice to deflect blame away from themselves to the actual person who was being used. They make the claim that if he was nice he would totally be fine with a one sided friendship where she is using him and because he isn't anymore he was not really nice and was just doing it to get in her pants and therefore she is justified in using him.
It's all deflection away from the perpetrator towards the victim. Women are good at doing that.
Yes to number 1 especially! It's true. If she thinks you're hot she'll want to fuck. And I <3 #3!! That is so so so true. It is NOT hard to spot a bad guy at all. Them being evil is what makes them attractive. It is really easy to see... those fake passive guys are creepy though. They can be a little harder to notice, but after spending time with them you can tell something is off. as for #2, I agree but I haven't seen that too often.
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in my opinion most probable reasons: They already like someone else. They want to know you more before going ahead. Being friend is best way to bond. (I don't think without friendship any relationship would last for long.) You're not attractive enough for them.
Other minor 'might be' reasons: Different personalities. They just want to be friends.
... friendzone isn't permanent. Unless you both develop bro-sis like relationship.
Thanks for the treatise on the Friendzone. Having been there a few times, I now see why they put me there... or kind of see it. Being the 'nice guy' and watching the lady I like go out with a jerk, and then crying to me about it, just burns me.
Good question, probably because of insecurities and don't want to be alone. So I stayed with these women even though I was just a 'friend'. I would still go out to lunch, shopping or whatever just to be with them, secretly wishing I could be the one. I've learned a lot over the years, so in today's world, I am more secure and I don't put up with that shit anymore.
When they get older... suddenly those guys that they had no attraction to start to look like an option... but only when Joe sixpack stops showing interest.
Pretty much which begs the question were they capable of showing love/affection to them all this time but were too distracted/star gaze chasing Joe sixpack for commitment to give him a chance or are they not sexually attracted at all to this man and just using him now for resources/security?
@BubbleBoy69 I think they were never sexually attracted to them and never will be.
Maybe that's why you hear so many stories of less sex after marriage... sex becomes a chore when you don't really want to do it... but it was hot and exciting with Joe sixpack.
Being seen as friends may be the best thing because a girl that friend zoned a guy, if she would have given him a chance she might have end up hurting him or hurt her.. it can be seen as blessing in disguise if you ask me.
Unless you're unattractive or the guy is already seeing a woman: he wants more than friendship. Men never want to be "just friends" with women. Even women don't want to be friends with other women.
I rarely get Friendzoned. Whenever I have I walk away and never had any contact with the rejector ever again. And I never felt bad about treating them like shit.
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