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Came across this comment:

"My first observations on the alpha-beta-delta-gamma-omega hierarchy was in college. Around 13yrs to 16 years the girls start to date and settle with the high-value men. Looking back it's clear that back then it was primary about looks, secondary about social status. The hottest girls got together with the best looking males. The dominant male (the jock) got the sluts.

The same observations kept on returning in every social group I participated. Good looks are the main attractor. Now, once the hierarchy is set, it's pretty fixed. Most jocks and good looking men married their highschool/college sweetheart, have a family and some are now in debt/divorced with alimony settlements. They became "beta" very fast.

A few years before the girls go on the job-market, the dimension of "money" becomes more and more important. But only slightly. The longer they wait with settling down, the more important it becomes.
The delta males married the average girls.

The gamma males from back then, married the unattractive warpigs.

The omega males are single.

In fact, the whole system is a cascade, and because the social environment changes so fast and so often, you have the illusion that hypergamy is rampant. When in fact it's the social environment that is changing so fast. The females are merely catching up. You have to look at a closed social system to see what is really going on."

Summarize:
In highschool/college the one her friends approved of and what was considered most important was looks and popularity for most girls. As a woman finds herself in the working world (parents are less likely to support her), money becomes more important and increases the longer she waits to settle down. what is considered a catch and approved by her friends is a male who is financially secure, has a well paying, high status job. Approval from her friends shift more from looks/popularity to wealth and job status and this is the men show now prefers.

I have never smoked, drank alcohol, had sex or done drugs but most people at my school do those things. Me and my friends are good enough how we are and have no need for other peoples approvals and respect ourselves enough to make the decision we'll be proud of rather than the ones that will haunt them for the text of their lives. How do you live your life?

Women as a general for the most part need the media and women around them to tell them if a man is attractive. This comes in the form of girl approval and is the ultimate deciding factor if a woman will want you for ONS, or a relationship.

Girl approval comes about because female gender is highly competitive. Quote take from a woman:

"Women do not have friends we have competition. We lie to our so-called female friends and pretend we are loyal and faithful to them, just like we do with the men in our lives. Secretly, we are jealous of each other, and we want all of the desirable things that other women have—most especially when it comes to our female friends’ things. And we consider men to be things."

So when a woman is deciding whether to get with you she needs to know that her friends and women around you are a catch. You can be a great guy on paper and boyfriend/lover for her but if her friends and/or women around her say your a loser then she's going to say your not a catch.
We see similar instances of girl approval in club settings when men just happen to approach the wrong woman for the first dance. If she flat out rejects him other women will be watching and basically your chances of getting a dance with another girl is greatly reduced. 2 or 3 more times and your basically looked at as a weirdo/loser in the club by women who is defective.
Girl approval can also work when we look at you getting rejected by a woman initially only to get an even hotter woman to be your girlfriend.
This was the quote taken by a female on gag as to why women would now consider chasing and wanting to be with you after that. This was the reason made by a female "Girls trust other girls' taste."

Women are also heavily influence by what media tells them is hot. Take 2 ugly guys but are actors and put them in a blockbuster movie and suddenly their sex symbols.