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So obviously, there's this guy. We've been friends for awhile, & after he had a nasty breakup over Christmas break. Well we were still close, & I kinda liked him, but he was struggling with the loss of a 2 year relationship that didn't end well, and needed space. Well after move in day in Aug, we started getting closer again. Hanging out a lot, walks, the little diner type place on campus... my feelings grew. I wasn't sure if it was mutual, but because we're apart of a lot of the same groups & were so close, I was seeing him so much that I was about to start making things crazy awkward. I asked one of our mutual friends who's basically his sister, & she said that while he was still having relationship anxiety, if I felt like we needed to talk about it, that we should. So we did. I got an awkward smile & "Okay", with a text a few minutes later saying that I took him off guard, but that he isn't looking into a relationship with anyone in anyway. The usual cop out. But like I said, he is actually struggling with relationship anxiety, & I feel like we've actually gotten a lot closer. We've gone to the coffee shop together almost every day since, we eat together a lot (usually w/ a group), occasional text, he cracks at almost all my jokes, the body language signs (with the exception of the hair), Snapchat story feature, today was the first day we haven't see each other & hung out in over a week and he texted me with a work question... so basically is there any chance that it wasn't a cop out & he really, truly isn't ready?

Oh, & this is probably a bigger deal then I'm making it out to be, but side note, I'm fairly certain his brother likes me?

There's also this other girl & they do stuff together, but she's several years older then us, usually is the one to initiate the hangout, and I think likes this other guy. But they do go get food some or an occasional movie, & he messes with his hair around her (But not the other signs). He insist that they're just friends, so I don't know.

My friend and I met 3.5 years ago. He was in an open relationship. I was just coming out of a bad breakup. We were our own people with no strings attached. His girlfriend dumped him, and he was heartbroken. I was there for him, but I avoided getting attached, because we were just friends, he was moving out of state in a year or so, and I was not going to be a rebound. We were having sex as friends, we both got tested fairly often, and we never fought about anything. Our dynamic was not all sex. He moved away, I thought I'd never hear from him again. Instead he flew me out to see him, and we maintained our friendship. I wondered which way this was going. We talked a few times, he said he had strong, loving feelings for me but as a close friend for life that he would always be there for. I was happy with that direction. Last year, I decided that I was looking for more. He was not an option, so I saw other people. He seemed to not be happy about that and we pulled away a bit. When we saw each other we didn't have sex, but we still enjoyed each others company. Last month I texted to say hi. Out of the blue he started talking to me in a way he never had before, and then he asked me to be his girlfriend! Needless to say, I was shocked! I didn't think he felt that way about me, and I had moved past that as ever being an option. I told him that this was something we should discuss in person. He agreed, and I booked a flight.

Monday I asked him if he would get an STD test.

He hasn't been tested since January, and he's had 4 partners since then. Two days later he completely blew up on me over it. He started ranting that he's never once asked me to get tested, and he cannot accept my lack of trust and paranoia in requesting that he get tested every time we are seeing each other. I should just trust that he can pick good people. I told him that STDs don't care about trust. It ended in him saying he never loved me in any way, I was just a good friend. What just happened?