Here's a list of reasons why guy friends are the best and why I have so many of them. Even though I do have girl friends that are wonderful as well, I wanted to shed light on how amazing guy friends can be and all of their benefits. 💕
1.) I can be myself around them.
Typically this is a wonderful thing, because with girls there can be room for a lot of judgment. Not to say all girls are judgmental, but it's a common character trait that they have and it's very rare that someone won't feel self conscious around a group of women, unless they're close and personal with them. With guys, I'm my absolute weirdest, craziest and vulnerable self and they love me just the same- if not more when I'm being my authentic self around them. :)
2.) They give the best advice.
Whether it's a tough breakup with your longtime partner or simply encouragment on passing final exams or nailing a job interview, they give the most brotherly and straightforward advice. It's like chicken soup for the soul. They don't sugar coat anything, but they don't brutally tear you down either. They tell you like it is, but in a nice, calm and constructive way. It's also done out of love. And you will never hate them for it. <3
3.) They're protective.
Almost every one of my guy friends are always genuinely concerned about me. They never like to hear anything unsettling and are always there to comfort and cheer me up. If someone were bothering me/ harassing me online, they would instantly go on protective mode and either give the best advice they could or confront them themselves, if they had to. In person, it's a different story. They'd completely step in front of me against anyone.
4.) They aren't jealous of me.
I know what a lot of you might be thinking. This is me taking a jab at women, insisting they're all jealous hearted and catty. While this is true to some extent, not all women are like this. There are some women who are actually encouraging and love to encourage their pretty, successful friends and be happy for them, rather than compete or try to bring them down.
In refererence to guys, this also applies. I've had a handful of friends that were a little too competitive. One in particular. She copied almost everything I did, and she always had to relate to something I did. She never truly seemed entirely happy for me when something wonderful was brought up, in regards to my life. With guy friends, they don't waste their time and energy doing that. They aren't jealous of my happiness or success, they wholeheartedly support it. And that's what I love about them the most.
Not implying some girl friends can't be the same, because all of my girl friends care about me and my happiness and support it fully. I have cut out the ones who I felt didn't, and I'm so glad I did.
5.) They care to reach out.
A lot of my female friendships are a little one sided. But with my guy friends, they are usually the ones that reach out and talk to me the most. I don't have to be the one who always initiates contact. They care enough to message me if we haven't spoken in a while and check on me. It makes me feel cared for in loved more than anything.
6.) They can carry on a conversation forever.
Guy friends are so easy to talk to, and you can spend hours texting, calling, or having a deep and personal conversation with them over coffee, brunch, or any occasion. They don't tyically like to leave you on read and go weeks without contacting you.
7.) They are there for me when I need them.
I recall a few days ago, I was in my bedroom and feeling very sick. I didn't know what to do, because I don't have a working car as of right now and therefore not much stability in getting places. However, after a brief call to one of my close guy friends, he came to the rescue and took me to a neighborhood Walmart to get remedies that helped me feel better. It was incredibly sweet and thoughtful. A good guy friend who loves you enough will come right to your rescue at only a phone call away if you dearly need them. That's one reason that I love them eternally. I can rely on my guy friends for anything and I can trust them wholeheartedly.
8.) They are like brothers.
Who doesn't want a wonderful big brother that you can accept as your own? That's how I feel about all of my guy friends. They're like the big brothers I never had, and it's truly the best feeling ever.