What are the reasons why you would friendzone a guy?

[Anonymous]

This question is commonly asked but for you, why would you friendzone and reject him? Answer poll and comment pls. Thank you

Here are some reasons

Looks, not attracted

Don't want to be with him at all

i can't believe he asked me on a date, i didn't know he Liked me.

i always saw him as a friend, not the type for me

His appearance

He is too nice and not though

Short guy and a skinny guy In Looks

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Now, i wish i didn't ask this anonymously haha, thank you all for answering

[btbc92]

There is no such thing as the friendzone. My criteria are being friends for a long time first to get to know THEM as a person, what they're about, what they want for the future, and what they're into. Looks is irrelevant to me. My goal is finding out who he is without him 'sneaking' in and I found out things about him that I highly dislike. An example is that he's into porn or other things that would make me want to vomit. I rather know as friends than in a relationship. Plus, my major dealbreakers is anything that goes against what I believe in and need in a partner. If I wasn't celibate, I look at it like this: If I date, it's for seeking a marriage partner. So if anything, don't want to be with him at all would be more realistic depending, because all of that poll choices is meaningless to me when I had guys ask me out when I was younger than 18. Plus, if he's lusting after me and if I sense something not right about him and don't trust his intentions. I wouldn't give him a shot, no matter how handsome he looks.

However, the reasons why it would never go further with a guy friend if again we don't hold the same or similar views, and or our views aren't respected and is incompatible. Respect for my beliefs and desires is key for me as a person. If not, he will have to find somebody else.

[BrighteyedAsh]

Ex-actly!

To note, my love and I mutually intended friendship early on and nothing more but both quickly realized that we just... matched up effortlessly. We could pretty quickly tell we were on the same page and it caused it to really click. I fell for his perspective, his humor, his sincerity, his wisdom, his very presence. And because we didn't settle on that... it has gone on to grow towards a lasting love. We have a consistent dynamic of truly being and feeling in love on a regular basis.

Friend zone definitely doesn't exist because it implies that the other one simply doesn't realize compatibility. If it's not mutual then... you're not compatible. If you were actually compatible on a genuine level you would quickly come together as a relationship with close to no effort.

[btbc92]

@BrighteyedAsh

Then you have a very healthy relationship, and I desire nothing more but the best to the both of you. Anybody who believes in that friendzone crap is a coward. And I'm not sorry for saying it. :)

[fabulouspancakes]

I don't "friendzone" guys anymore because I quit having male "friends" after realizing how most men really feel about having female "friends." But in the past, it could be for various reasons. Either I wasn't attracted to him or just didn't think we'd make a good couple. It is possible for women to genuinely like a man as a friend, but not as a boyfriend.
I have to say one sure way to stay out of the friendzone is to make your interest clear early on. It seems like a lot of guys are afraid of being rejected, but it's better to be rejected sooner rather than later, right?

[Asker]

Yes, i was rejected the other week by a girl. Things were awkward and i made things better now but i do care about her..

[Asterea]

I think a missing peice to this is 'why do I want to be friends with him?'.
This is kinda important, largely because I can turn down a guy without wanting to be his friend. I don't just decide that any guy who asks me out or shows interest suddenly becomes my friend.
I think you are fun to be around or that I like having conversations with you, or we have similar interests etc... Most of the things I do with male friends I also do with female friends or mixed groups... I only have male friends that I play D&D with because none of my female friends are interested.
I 'friend zone' a guy because I enjoy his company and want to be his friend... I also 'friend zone' a ton of girls.
It's not a lack of anything, I have never looked at someone and gone "well he's not good enough to date, but I'll keep him anyway"...
I guess my point is guys aren't in the friend zone because they don't meet some qualification, it's because that female likes your company... Otherwise you would just be some guy she doesn't talk to.

[Girl_Interuppted]

I chose appearance. This includes, not only looks, but general presentation.

It is AMAZING how many men spend absolutely zero effort cultivating their image and then moan about getting friendzoned.

Almost every woman I know puts some effort into cultivating her femininity (this is done mostly through looks and makeup etc as men are visual). It costs time, money and effort.

You get alpha males who put time and effort into their clothes, hair, the way they look and presenting themselves in a masculine way and having good game/chat.

Then you get the men who don't. Who roll out of bed and into wherever they are going and then get upset/depressed when the hottest girls don't wanna f*** them. It absolutely astounds me.

You MUST cultivate your appearance. For men, this is both looks, but even more vitally- personality. Masculinity costs less money to cultivate, but it costs more time in terms of personal advancement, assertiveness and generally meeting challenges in life. This turns women on.

[Girl_Interuppted]

I have a male friend who did this, who friendzoned me, who saw me and my friend get ready and was absolutely astounded at the time it took (and by the way, we don't wear particularly much make-up).

My every day routine: gym, shower, wait for hair dye to set in (this is once a month), wash off, leave in conditioner 1 hour as I have dry hair (this is every other day), wash off, shave body, exfoliate, tan. Going out: make-up, blow dry and straighten hair, false eye lashes if night out. This shit is exhausting and takes time. But without it, I wouldn't even be presentable, let alone considered hot and I do quite well for myself.

This same male friend won't cut back on the amount of cheeseburgers he eats and then complains that "women should love him for who he is" and that women are selfish bitches for friend zoning him. He's been propositioned by unattractive women and won't go for them. He can't seem to get the irony.

[Girl_Interuppted]

*Who I friendzoned (not who friendzoned me lol)

[BrighteyedAsh]

None. I usually just realized that while they were great people, I didn't foresee long term compatibility.

I know what I want and I've settled in the past and found out that it was no good for anyone.

It has nothing to do with their own personal capacity for success it's that I didn't view our ideas of success to line up in the big ways that are necessary for a consistent relationship.

One example, I've always found a country gentleman attractive and in some weird fantasy level I can see their capacity to be an amazing mate... but I recognize that I would not be happy or make a truly good fit for them.

I've had some really attractive partners who put a lot of effort into proving/demonstrating themselves to be a good partner but their views of the future really just didn't sync up.

I don't waste time. I see nothing wrong with us liking each other for friendship strengths and leaving one another open for someone who truly matches up in a long term way.

[birdsandflies]

Neither of those options. Personally, it's either I like you or I don't. I can't force it. It's not about his looks or whatever because I have liked lots of guys who are considered "unattractive" but their personality flowed so nicely with mine, like we just clicked, I automatically felt a connection with him and I couldn't really help it. I feel bad knowing a guy likes me when I don't like him back but it just is what it is, I'm not intentionally friend zoning him I just can't force feelings for him.

[dragonfly6516]

Firstly, no one "gets" friend zoned, you do that to yourself when you choose to hang around after you've been rejected.

But I personally never date strangers. We have to be friends first for a while, and I'll respect your decision to walk away if you're not willing to wait.

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

None of these. I would 'friend-zone' him because we were friends first & he never made a move. To me the friend-zone is actually the path to having a relationship with me. As a guy, if I trust you enough to call you my friend you have a very good chance at being my boyfriend. The only other reason I'd keep you there is if our values didn't line up. That's the only thing keeping a guy there outside of him not wanting to be my boyfriend.

[heather4N0w]

HaHAHA this is funny because a really good friend of mine known him for 8 years now is so sexy like really really yummy however something about our personalities that just dont scream relationship, His a awesome guy but we just wouldn't get along as a couple and we both know this lol. I also wouldn't risk it and lose him as a friend. That is why i friend zone him lol

[Anonymous]

None, if I want to be friends first but dont want the guy to feel friendzoned I'll let him know. I like to be friends first in order to slowly get to knkw someone before taking it further if that happens. He i only see a guy as a friend i will let him know that too. And that would be because I'm not physically attracted to him and or attracted to his personality in a romantic way.

[peachblossomluck]

Here's one that a lot of people don't think about : he looks like a relative. I've been turned off by guys because they look like the men in my family. That's too weird like I'm incesting or something.

[TsundereMatrix]

I get a lot of guys that are only looking to hook up so I keep my guard up high and keep them in the friend zone until they reveal their true expectations of our relationship.