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It seems like I'm minding my p's and q's 90% of the time with my dad, bu the minute I get just a little out of line he has to be like "LEARN YOUR PLACE, I"M THE ADULT, YOU"RE A CHILD" He doesn't yell it every time (but trust me, he has yelled before), but he always makes me cry bc of the way he handles it. He comes back and apologizes later, but I'm just so sick of it. What about you guys? So, to answer my question, I can have like 0 attitude before he gets mad and I cry almost every time, I know I'm sensitive, but I'm not that sensitive.

And most times, it isn't even my "attitude", it's me questioning what he does as a parent that sets him off. Like way off.

I try and just hold my head up while he continues on and on and on, usually a single tear goes down my face in front of him, but when I go to my room I'm sobbing.

In my field (medical) was dealing with a domestic situation. Now I used to be law enforcement & military so it takes a *lot* to intimidate me. As in I've stood on the side of a highway helping a friend with his traffic flagging company & had 6+ ton trucks whip by close enough to touch without flinching.

Anyway this guy was obviously used to abusing women. He tried to stare down/intimidate the front desk girls & the woman he was with had obviously long since learnt best to keep her head down.

When it came to me because I would not break eye contact, etc. or show any signs of fear/anxiety, etc. he started going on I was bothering him, etc. It was very obviously making him uncomfortable. Now trust me I can handle myself & had he tried something he'd have been on the floor by the time he could say shit. If I didn't break his nose first. Depends on what he tried.

But it just was a very heavy reminder that women (and child) abusers are nothing more than spineless cowards.