Guys ghosting you and leaving after you have them your all?

[Laura__c]

So first I was talking to this guy he was incredibly handsome and funny and sweet or so I thought we went on a couple dates and learned he was a player in the past but I “made him want to change his ways” one night we were on a date we drove up and looked at the sunset and held each-other it was perfect that night he took me home and I asked him if I was the only girl he was talking to and he literally didn’t answer so He gets a call from his friend and while talking he goes “I’m with my girl rn” so he hung up and I was like “so I’m your girl now” and he goes “what did I just say” and I was like “you just said I’m your girl” and he goes “okay then” and then kissed me. The relationship I had before him was extremely traumatic for me and I told him everything and that I needed someone who I could trust. After that night he literally became so distant saying that he wasn’t the type of person who could be exclusive and then ghosted me with 0 explanation I was so angry and devastated because why would you waste my time and make me catch feelings if you were just going to leave. Cut to now... he has a girlfriend whom he seems to be serious about and now I feel like I wasn’t good enough and I don’t even know why. Why do guys think this is okay to do. They just don’t care how we feel.

[Danny_dan92]

The shit happens to us guys too.


I get left on read by a shit load of women, best thing to do is just don’t beat yourself up over it. Do not take it personal. And simply move on with your life.


There is nothing you or anyone can do to stop people from doing this action. But you can simply forget about the people that do it to you, consider them dead the instant they choose to leave you hanging.

[Laura__c]

Like why do they do this and not understand it’s hurtful

[Danny_dan92]

There are shitty people in this world with no back bone

[Drumlin2001]

Sounds like he found things a little intense and decided to pull away. He was probably looking to have a bit of fun, not a full on relationship. Rather than lead you on he went a different way.
You don't know the in's and out's of his new relationship, the public show and what happens behind closed doors are two verry different things, besides you need to let it go. He moved on it's time for you to.

[NorthShoreCalling]

I agree

[Laura__c]

Well if he wanted one he could of had it with me so why chose her and lie to me

[NorthShoreCalling]

As you get older you’ll realise that not everyone is compatible and it’s nothing personal and that’s okay.

[Drumlin2001]

Feels like you want something with more commitment than he may be willing to give. You'll find someone who will make you happy, it just won't be him. Move on

[SandandWaves]

it's not all guys. Sounds like he was playing you. He sounds selfish

[SandandWaves]

;) thanks for MHO

[dudeinohio]

Well, guys in your age group still are playing the field. As they get older, they get more serious... in MOST cases.

[_vєmσn_]

Sounds like he was playing you.
stay away